Sunday, August 25, 2013

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Dear sisters...I will be re-posting my pieces for the next little while.. Alhamdulillah the readers are increasing bidhni'Allah and I would love for everyone to benefit from some of the previous blog posts which I had written which have gotten the most "views" ... Also, I am just going on a short hiatus for awhile (again, I know heehee) before I start writing new material insha'Allah.

I pray that you are all well and in a good state of emaan....I am struggling to be better and I really ask all you dear sisters to keep me in your duaa's.....you are in mine as always my beloved believing sisters in Islam...

Enjoy the upcoming posts (even though they are re-posts) ... Insha'Allah you will benefit from them bidhni'Allah ... love you all for the sake of Allah and keep smiling! It's Sunnah (of course not to non-mahrams though!!!!!!) 
xo




I just wanted to post this IMPORTANT REMINDER. This is for all the ignorant sisters out there who think that posting photo's of themselves (on Facebook, Twitter, their blogs, Tumblr... ETC ..) is OK : 
(by the way, I am no longer accepting "HATE" mail. Comments have been disabled and different e-mail has been provided! FEAR ALLAH!) 

Veiled sisters uploading their pictures on the internet – Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee

by AbdurRahman.org
 Question:
A questioner from France says: As salaamu alaikum, jazakaAllahu khrain O Shaykh. What is your view concerning the woman who places her picture wearing niqab, even though her face is covered, on the internet forums and other places? Keeping in mind, this is a fitna for the young men. May Allah bless you.
Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee:
You know, I don’t know—Subana Allah—some of the women, what do they want from this? What do they want by uploading these pictures, even those who upload their pictures in which they are wearing niqab, or a woman with her face covered, what does she want from this?
This is not done by someone with insight and wisdom and this is evidence of an ignorant way of thinking. What benefit is gained by uploading a picture of a woman wearing niqab, for example? And the evil is greater if she uploads a picture of herself. It is as though she is saying to them: “Look at me,” whether she is wearing niqab or not; along with the beautification or the eyes and other than that.
I say: My general advice to the women: Fear Allah O women, those who enter the internet forums and internet websites, and the social networking sites such as twitter and the other websites. Fear Allah. Whether addressing the men, or chatting with the men, uploading pictures, and going to great lengths in this matter. This is a great door to evil, the magnitude of it is only known to Allah.
And Allah knows the situation of these affairs based on these forums and websites, from the abundance of evil that occurs from some of the people due to these affairs; whether it is by the private messages, or by connecting through other means, or by sending emails, or other than that from the means that some men use to catch women.
And sometimes it occurs between a man who is religiously committed and a woman who is religiously committed. Fear Allah O daughters of the Muslims!!
By Allah, surely I know specific people, I know specific people, and I do not say this from the standpoint of mentioning stories and tales, but rather from the standpoint of inciting fear and alarm, this is the standpoint I am coming from. A woman and a man fell into fornication. Both of them were students of knowledge, both of them were students of knowledge. I know them specifically. We ask Allah for safety and security.
Thus beware, beware—may Allah bless you—beware beware! The person must stay far away from the doors of evil and he must make an escape from them; fleeing.
Whoever needs to connect with someone, whether it is for marriage, or engagement, the connection should occur from the females, from your family, your relatives, from this method. And do not open this door upon yourself! Because this door is a door of evil, such that if it is open it is not about to close except with great evil. We seek refuge in Allah. We ask Allah for safety and security.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
Translator’s note: The Shaykh has written tazkiyah from Shaykh Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahab Al Aqeel
To Proceed,
You may think that there is nothing wrong with your innocent intentions, but please remember Allah is ALL- KNOWING, ALL-SEEING, ALL-HEARING. He KNOWS BETTER THAN YOU DO..and if you choose to follow your vain desires over His commands of "BEING MODEST" then do as you wish if you have NO SHAME. 

For those with husbands, or fiances (WHO ARE NON-MAHRAM BTW) does he not care that his wife/fiance is being showcased online in an open sea of predators who could easily creep and land on your page? Does your husbands not have any grain of jealousy or modesty himself? Let us REFLECT. Would you like your husband doing the same? "I trust him..." Yeah, but do you trust Shaitan and other sisters who don't fear Allah? Let's be real here. Please STOP making excuses for yourselves and use your common sense and remember this verse from the Qur'an : 

“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear therof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons or their sisters' sons, or their women or the servants whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex, and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers, turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss.” (Quran 24:31)

Do not cry and complain if hardship or punishment befalls you because you chose to disregard Allah's commands and your obligation as a modest Muslimah. His signs are so clear, yet I still don't understand why it is that women still need to share their pictures of themselves online. The naive thinking of "well, I have only sisters on my Facebook, blog, Twitter .. etc" is absolutely a ignorant way of thinking, and it shows that you do not know your Lord well AT ALL. Fear Him, do more research on MODESTY in Islam and ask yourself it the mother of believers would really have photographs or sculptures made of themselves during their time (given that there was no picture making back then, due to it being HARAM- and it STILL IS, but use your common sense.) Allah could easily teach a good lesson to us and inflict HASAD (evil eye, envy) upon us (Audhubilah) just because we want to share photo's of ourselves to show-off to everyone, saying "look at me! I'm pregnant and you're not!" , " look at me ! I'm beautiful and you're not!", " look at me! I have more wealth than you!" , " look at me and my kids! they are cuter than yours and you don't have kids!!" ... SERIOUSLY sisters. think about it. Stop being selfish and think about Allah and your fellow sisters in Islam. Fear Him, and fear the evil eye, for it is as real as it gets.

Allah blessed us with a brain but why is that many of us are choosing our emotional desires over our rationality? What is the purpose of posing and posting photographs of ourselves on the internet?

a) for family to see? - Use Skype

b) for your DIY, journal blog? - I'm pretttttty sure you do NOT need to include photo's of yourselves. Seriously. If you are intelligent to make your own DIY things, you would be intelligent enough to figure out other ways to showcase your products without having to showcase your beauty.

c) for your "sisters only" Facebook , Twitter, Tumblr etc.? - Honestly??? Is your intentions really to be MODEST and please Allah when you post photo's of yourselves? Or is it to gain compliments and seek approval from other sisters and to even make some jealous? This is SHIRK BTW.  FEAR ALLAH. AND LEARN YOUR RELIGION. You complain about brothers messaging you or this and that.... WELL YOU ARE BEING A FITNAH FOR THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE???!!!! 

err...." I follow the Qur'an and Sunnah" - but do you really? 
Because the Qur'an and Sunnah ...NOWHERE IN IT does it state for women to a) adorn themselves for non-mahrams b) post their own photo's or showcase their beauties to the general public (ONLINE INCLUDED FYI)  c) make themselves a fitnah for brothers. d) (this one is real common too) posting photo's of yourself and your family, husband included. - Does it not phase you that some sisters, who are ignorant and do not fear Allah, will look at your husband and let Shaitan get in the way? What if a sister so badly desires a husband and a family and she sees your photos? It's like WHIPLASH in the face on an open wound. 
Stop being SELFISH and FEAR ALLAH. Why do you need to share photo's of you and your family? To say " ohh we are a big happy family, look at us everyone! I want to show mom and dad our happy family!" - Again, there is SKYPE, or PERSONAL e-mail. The entire online world does NOT need to see you and your family, and we are Muslims, not kafirs. We know the difference between protecting ourselves and our families. Right?

Listen sisters, I am saying this all out of love for the sake of Allah. This is not meant to be taken in a way that results in you saying: " YOU SHOULD FEAR ALLAH, YOU ARE A MEANIE !" ... because I know there will be some of you who will think this. But, I just want to remind you, because the next sister, and the sister after, who stumble upon your FB, Twitter, blog, tumblr etc. will NOT tell you. Take this as a favour upon yourself and put your desires and emotions aside for one second. Think about Jannah, think about Allah. Don't you want to see His Face ? I only want for you what I want for myself, and that can only be done if we have sisters who truly care for our Akhirah rather than for our dunya. We are all here to strive together, advise each other, and to pay heed to Allah's commands.
Remember we as believing sisters are here to enjoin the good and forbid the evil : 

“Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by hating it and feeling that it is wrong] – and that is the weakest of faith” (Narrated by Muslim, 49) 


“You (true believers in Islamic Monotheism, and real followers of Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and his Sunnah) are the best of peoples ever raised up for mankind; you enjoin Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam has ordained) and forbid Al‑Munkar (polytheism, disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden)”


We all need to really reflect and ask ourselves, " what is the purpose of me posting photos" because this is not a true Muslimah trait. If we say we love Allah and His Messenger (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam), then why do our actions contract our words? 
Think about it. 
We all want Jannah, but what are we doing to get there? Are we truly sacrificing our desires for Allah? Or are we making a 50-50 unacceptable compromise? 


Imaam-us-Sa'adee said: "Do not go out whilst you are beautified or perfumed, as the women of the Days of Ignorance used to do since they did not have any knowledge or religious characteristics." [Tafseer ibn Sa'adee, (6/107)]



(THIS INCLUDES IN PUBLIC AND THE ONLINE WORLD!!)

Imaam-ul-Albaanee said: "Tabarruj is when a woman exposes her adornment, body features and all that she is obligated to cover, which invites the desires of men." [Hijaab-ul-Mar'at-il-Muslimah, p. 54]


Remember, modesty is a branch of Imaan. If you have no modesty, no shame, then do as you wish. If you do not know the guidelines of modesty, I suggest that you please seek more knowledge. Reading the Qur'an, memorizing it, studying it.... does not mean A THING, if you can't even put one single verse into action. Let us try our best dear sisters, to fight our nafs, and delete those unecessary photo's of ourselves that the online world does NOT need to see... and don't delete it for you, for me, for anybody else..except to earn the Pleasure of Allah and HIM ALONE. 

The Prophet said, “It is not that, Being modest to Allah as one should be is that one should guard his head and what it contains, his belly and what it consists of and that he should continuously remember death and the decaying (of the bones),and whosoever desires the
Hereafter should abandon the adornment of the World and should prefer the Hereafter over the World. Whoever does this, he is modest to Allah as he should be."(Tirmidhi)


Yahya related to me from Malik from Salama ibn Safwan ibn Salama az-Zuraqi that Zayd ibn Talha ibn Rukana, who attributed it to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Every deen has an innate character. The character of Islam is modesty.' "  (47.2.9 Malik Mutawwa)


May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen! 

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