Congratulations on completing your Ramadan! May Allah accept our good deeds & worship from us and from you, ameen.
I understand that you might not have achieved what you planned for, you maybe couldn't fast most of the days, and you might have even come out of Ramadan feeling deflated and defeated.
Remember something, nothing befalls us except that Allah has allowed it. The good, and the 'bad'. Do your best not to complain and remember that everything was written for you already and the past is now behind us and we only have the present to look forward to.
Allow yourself to process your emotions, reflect upon what "went wrong" and give yourself some grace. It's hard to look at the positives if we are constantly only looking for the negatives.
Reflect on all the things Allah allowed you to do. Maybe the smallest of deeds you overlooked earned you the greatest reward because of your sincere intentions. We will never know what we did, what we belittled, could be what turned out to be our success for the Akhirah!
You are not a failure, you did not fail Allah , and you are not failing yourself. Blaming yourself, blaming others, playing victim may help us feel better but in reality, it's unhealthy and it is indirectly complaining about what Allah gave you and what He decreed for you.
Allah knows the unseen and Allah knows what we know not. By the apparent, we may think that everything is against us, but if we know and understand correctly what Tawheed is, we will realise that everything that happens is actually for us and not against us.
This brings us to Eid.
Eid for many converts is a time for sadness and loneliness. Many of us know and understand this feeling very well. But guess what? It doesn't have to be this way because Allah never asked us to sit at home, alone, and sulk and feel sorry for ourselves. I actually used to do this a lot, may Allah forgive me. But, I realised, this is not going to make my situation better nor easier and I'm actually being so ungrateful, astughfurAllah.
We often times are so hasty and don't even allow the beauty of Allah's Plans to unfold. We are quick to jump to conclusions thus causing resentment, sadness, despair and thinking badly of Allah. May Allah protect us always from such evil!
We need to slow down. Take a deep breath and just exhale with gratitude and contentment.
It may be hard, but honestly, we have two choices only.
Either we sulk and be miserable at the decree of Allah , or we be proactive and shift our perspective and mindset to a place that Allah will be pleased with. The first option earns us nothing but toxicity and bad deeds while the second option earns us good deeds as well as a beautiful look into all the blessings Allah has given to us already!
This Eid, take it upon yourself to treat yourself, build your own beautiful routine and cherish the peaceful solitude that Allah has gifted you.
Your life can change in a heartbeat, literally.
What you have control of, take control of it and appreciate it and look for the good in all that you have.
Make plans, even if it is with yourself. Buy yourself a new journal, a new hijab, a new prayer mat, and go out and enjoy time alone. If that's not your style, treat yourself to some self-care home spa and just enjoy the day!
Do not compare yourself and your situation to others! Look at what Allah gave you and not what He gave others. A content and sound heart will only bring more blessings whereas, a malicious, envious heart will bring nothing but harm and poverty.
You will have the Ramadan and Eid you always dreamed of, insha'Allah. Maybe not now, and maybe not next year, but it will happen on Allah's perfect timing and not yours. So keep thinking good of Allah, keep up being happy for others, because, envy is saying that other's don't deserve what Allah has given them!
May Allah forgive and protect us!
Remember, we worship Allah because it is our purpose in life. Everything that we have, are blessings and Allah doesn't have to give them to us, yet He does.
Also remember, our relationship is not transactional in the sense that we do a good deed and expect Allah to give us something back for it, no, Allah does not need our good deed or worship but we need Him. We do things because we love Allah and we want Him to be pleased with us. We put conditions on our worship or on our relationship with Allah.
May Allah bless you all and may He forgive us and grant us His vast Mercy and Generosity. Ameen!
Go out, make plans , have fun, enjoy the day and make yourself smile and make your sisters smile. Change your mindset and perspective and you will truly see the blessings and beauty of Allah's great plan unfolding right before you, insha'Allah!
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