Sunday, April 28, 2013

What is BUKHL? Do you have signs of it??



Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu,




So fear Allah as much as you are able and listen and obey and

 spend [in the way of Allah]; it is better for yourselves. And

 whoever is protected from the stinginess of his soul – it is those 

who will be the successful (64:16)



"And spend [in the way of Allah ] from what We have provided you before death approaches one of you and he says, "My Lord, if only You would delay me for a brief term so I would give charity and be among the righteous."
(Qur'an 63:10)


The Mercy and Bounties of Allah are limitless, He even showers His Mercy to the disobedient Muslims and the kafirs yet what are we all doing to thank Him for His Bounties?
Allah blesses us with new days, new experiences, and new outlooks on life so that it may turn our hearts to Him. To be able to live another day is another opportunity to turn to Him and repent for our sinful lives. To be able to live another day is another opportunity to pay heed to His Signs so that we can testify that there is no god but He. To be able to live another day means to use His Provisions He has Generously blessed us with to spend it for His sake and His alone. To be able to eat, sleep, breathe another day, is another opportunity to devote ourselves COMPLETELY to our ONE TRUE CREATOR.

So what am I trying to get on about with this post? Well, it's rather simple.
How many of us are spending in the WAY OF ALLAH? Allah is so Generous to us and ALWAYS blesses us with His Bounties. He blesses us with His Bounties even if we are not deserving of them. He provides us with endless provisions may it be wealth, education, healthy minds and bodies...So here is the problem, what exactly are WE doing to spend in HIS way?  His Provisions that He has provided for us, where is it going to exactly? Do we really need that extra hijab? Do we really need that abaya on sale? What about the fourth meal of the day ? DO WE REALLY NEED THAT? I understand we all have needs but SO DOES the Ummah. Allah has tested us with trials and calamities and they are only increasing. We cry and get all depressed about the sad state of the Ummah but when we have the opportunity to help out, we just ignore and make excuses to justify WHY we aren't spending in the way of Allah.

There are just TOO many excuses my dear sisters, just TOO many. I don't need to hear them, the starving orphans in Kenya don't need to hear them, nor do the innocent oppressed families in Syria, India, Burma (and everywhere else in this weak Ummah!). But...Allah will definitely Hear your excuses on the Day of Judgement when He asks you WHY you did not spend in His way, when He provided you with ALL the means to do so. When you were given countless opportunities to help out for His sake, yet you were stingy and you hid your wealth. You were given opportunities upon opportunities to give even HALF of a date or a SMILE, yet you were too stingy to EVEN offer such things. You were given the provision to donate to starving children in Pakistan yet you saved your wealth to feed your family of 4 their 4th meal of the day rather than a broken family of 15 who has not eaten for weeks! So, then what will you say? What kind of excuses will you have for Him then? 

If you are one of the many who say:  "Allah knows my intentions and my current situation as to why I am not spending in His way.." Surely, He definitely does know, since He was the one who put you in that situation in the first place. Can you REALLY say that you have been trying hard to spend in His way? If you do sadaqah already than good on you, Masha'Allah may Allah accept from you, but does that really mean it stops there? Does "Oh well I donated some used clothes to the masjid yesterday" or " I donate to children in Pakistan once a year" or  " Well, I need to save my money for my children's education" really suffice as an excuse? NO. It does not, Allah has mentioned countless times over and over about the IMPORTANCE about spending in His Way.
Those who have sufficient emaan will know the importance of spending in His way. Those who follow the correct teachings of the Qur'an and Authentic Sunnah, will know the importance of spending in His way.
If you are unaware of the due right to spend in the way of Allah for His sake, then please do educate yourselves as it is mentioned countless times in Surahatul Baqarah, Al-e-Imran, An-Nisa and so on and so forth and if you can't donate because you have gone bankrupt or you are living on the streets or for whatever extreme reason, than may Allah make it easy for you, and please make sure you pray the Duha prayer as that constitutes as an act of charity: 

1140. Abu Dharr (May Allah be pleased with him)reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "In the morning, charity is due on every joint bone of the body of everyone of you. Every utterance of Allah's Glorification (i.e., saying Subhan Allah) is an act of charity, and every utterance of His Praise (i.e., saying Al-hamdu lillah) is an act of charity and every utterance of declaration of His Greatness (i.e., saying La ilaha illAllah) is an act of charity; and enjoining M`aruf (good) is an act of charity, and forbidding Munkar (evil) is an act of charity, and two Rak`ah Duha prayers which one performs in the forenoon is equal to all this (in reward).''
[Muslim].


Let us all reflect on ourselves and ask ourselves if we are TRULY doing enough for the sake of Allah. I speak on behalf of myself first and foremost of course, and this reminder is dedicated firstly to myself, but I also encourage you all to reflect upon yourselves and really think deeply about all your good deeds that you have done for the sake of Allah. Ask yourself, if you were to die in an hour, or this very minute, what good deeds would you be bringing with you to the grave? Will Allah be pleased with you? Again, 

"And spend [in the way of Allah ] from what We have provided you before death approaches one of you and he says, "My Lord, if only You would delay me for a brief term so I would give charity and be among the righteous."
(Qur'an 63:10)

I leave you with some important reminders, and if you are willing to donate to my new project " Orphans @ Hajar al-Aswad" which is a project that I am working on with sisters from Kenya, then please see here for more information : http://www.onechinesemuslimah.com/apps/donations/ 




Say (O Muhammad صلى الله عليه و سلم) to ‘Ibadi (My slaves) who have believed, that they should perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat ), and spend in charity out of the sustenance We have given them, secretly and openly, before the coming of a Day on which there will be neither mutual bargaining nor befriending. ( سورة إبراهيم , Ibrahim, Chapter #14, Verse #31)


548. Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "Everyday two angels descend and one of them says, `O Allah! Compensate (more) to the person who gives (in charity)'; while the other one says, `O Allah! Destroy the one who withholds (charity, etc)".
[Al-Bukhari ]

"Who are stingy and enjoin upon [other] people stinginess and conceal what Allah has given them of His bounty - and We have prepared for the disbelievers a humiliating punishment -"(4:37)

"And what [harm would come] upon them if they believed in Allah and the Last Day and spent out of what Allah provided for them? And Allah is ever, about them, Knowing."  (4:39)


Here you are - those invited to spend in the cause of Allah - but among you are those who withhold [out of greed]. And whoever withholds only withholds [benefit] from himself; and Allah is the Free of need, while you are the needy. And if you turn away, He will replace you with another people; then they will not be the likes of you. (47:38)

Tuesday, April 23, 2013

Barsisa, The Worshipper.


Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu, 

By far, this is one of my most favourite reminders and it should be yours too. 
Next time you think you can outsmart Shaitan, think again. 
A good lesson for us all, perhaps we should just LEAVE THE DOOR CLOSED instead of peeking inside, as we never know what might just be on the other side. May Allah protect us from becoming like Barsisa or Iblees for that matter. Ameen. 
Please Read, Reflect, Repent, & Renew ! 



Barsisa, the worshipper
At the time of Bani Israel, there was a man in a small village, called Barsisa. He was, what you call, a monk. But he was a true Christian. He believed in Tawheed and believed Isa (peace be upon him) was a messenger of Allah. One day three brothers decided to go for Jihad. But they had a sister and they did not want to leave her alone. So they went looking for someone to take care of her. The town people suggested to leave her with Barsisa, because of his piety. So they went to him and when they asked him, he said, “I seek refuge from the cursed Shaytan” and said No! This was because he was scared of falling into sin ( due to the potential fitnah it may cause). Then Shaytan came to Barsisa in the form of Waswasah (Whisperings). Shaytan is very smart and knew Barsisa had a soft heart. So he told Barsisa, “What if they can’t find someone good and leave her with someone bad, wouldn’t that be your fault?” Now Barsisa did not realise this was Shaytan whispering in his heart, and because of his compassion for others, he decided to accept their request and help the woman.
He let her stay in a house opposite the church. He did this so that it would be easy for him to leave her her food outside the church and she could come get it herself. But after sometime, shaytan returned. This time he told Barsisa, “Why don’t you leave the food closer for her, so that people don’t see her moving back and forth alone!” Barsisa agreed and started leaving the food outside the house. But shaytan wasn’t happy with this either, so sometime later, he returned and ask Barsisa, “Why don’t you go in and leave it on the table, so that no one sees her coming out and going in alone all the time!” Again, Barsisa agreed and he started leaving the food on the table.
Then as time went by, Shaytan returned and said to him, “Why don’t you talk to her, she is all alone and has no one to talk to!” Barsisa agreed and started talking to her from behind a door (so as to screen himself). But this would lead them to almost shouting to each other to here themselves. Shaytan asked Barsisa to just go in and talk to her, and finally, he (Shaytan) had got the alone in a room. Shaytan had completed the difficult part. It wasn’t after Barsisa and the woman committed fornication. And to make things worse, she also became pregnant. As soon as the baby was born, Shaytan returned, and said to Barsisa, “What have you done? Look at the result of your evil (ie the child), get ride of the evidence otherwise the brothers will kill you!” Barsisa killed the baby and buried it in the same room the woman was in. Shaytan then told Barsisa, “Do you think you can kill the child of a woman and expect her not to tell anyone?!” and So Barsisa killed her and buried her along side the baby! He then made a fake grave outside and when her brothers returned, he informed them that she died of illness. After seeing the grave and make dua for her, they returned home and accepted Allah’s decree.
Later that night, Shaytan came to them in their dream and informed them about what Barsisa had done and where the child and their sister could be found. The brother got up upset and confused, and informed his brothers of the dream, and they both said they had the same dream. So they believed that it must be true, and when and dug up the fake grave and found it empty. They then dug the placed shaytan showed them in the dream and found the child and woman!
Furious, the brothers took Barsisa to the Leader to get his punishment. Barsisa knew that he would be given the death penalty. Shaytan came to Barsisa again, for the final time this time. This time he revealed himself and told him he was the one whispering the thoughts to him. And he said that he could save Barsisa, and as long as Barsisa makes sujood to him! Barsisa, out of desperation made Sujood to him , this confirmed his Kufr (disbelief) and Shaytan said to him “I am free of you, I fear Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists)!” and left Barsisa was stonned to death and on the day of judgement he will be resurrected making Sujood to Shaytan!
So look how shaytan tricked him. He came to him as a friend, but was infact his biggest enemy!
(Their allies deceived them) like Shaitân (Satan), when he says to man: “Disbelieve in Allâh.” But when (man) disbelieves in Allâh, Shaitân (Satan) says: “I am free of you, I fear Allâh, the Lord of the ‘Alamîn (mankind, jinns and all that exists)!” (Al-Hashr 59:16)
Shaytan will never make you sin directly, he will always trick you using Waswasah and he is more patient than any of us. So we should always seek refuge in Allah from Shaytan. Never think you have enough knowledge or are strong enough to take on Shaytan. This is why the Scholars of Islam are the ones with the most Taqwa, fear of Allah. So reflect on the story, if Shaytan told Barsisa to make sujood in the beginning, Barsisa would have said no staright away, but Shaytan has a plan in hand it was a step by step policy that made Barsisa finally breakdown and commit Kufr.
Reference for above story:
Stories in the Quran – Ibn Kathir – 110
(source: http://salaf-us-saalih.com/2009/10/31/story-of-barsisa-the-worshipper/)

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Interview: by Niqabi Nuances (one of my favourite blogs!)


Dear all lovely hunnies (SISTERS only lol), I have been a bit "MIA" (missing in action) from blogging just because I have sort of been taking a (MUCH) needed break, away from the online world, which I truly encourage everyone to do from time-to-time. It is HEALTHY! It helps you renew your intentions and re-evaluate yourselves and it really helps you see just HOW FLAWED you truly are and how bad you must look in the Sight of Allah! Taking some time away from the online world will eventually help you get closer to Allah and it will teach you MANY things about your relationship with Him..things you NEVER thought you would know or learn. Subhana'Allah!

That being said, I did however have the chance to answer a few questions from one of my lovely blogger friends over @ "Niqabi Nuances!" (click here). Her blog is fabulous and masha'Allah very straight to the point as well! It's a lovely da'wah blog full of Niqabi posts and modesty pieces that really make you say " YAH! I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!" So, please do check it out when you get a chance !!! Enjoy the interview and please do read it ALL-THE-WAY-THROUGH! READ, REFLECT, and REACH OUT! ACT NOW, DON'T WAIT! (and because this sister is just so amazingly sweet masha'Allah please also make duaa for her that Allah protects and preserves her and rewards all her hard work for His sake and His alone! ) 





WHAT INSPIRED YOU TO ACCEPT ISLAM?
One Chinese Muslimah: Well, I can't say that there was anything in particular that inspired me to accept Islam. In fact, I was anti-religious and religion was not even in my vocabulary! I never thought about Allah at all and there were points in my life I doubting His existence (astughfurAllah). Truly, guidance is from Him and Him alone and I would have to say that it was a bunch of bad things that happened to me in my past life that accumulated into one big thing and it just made me fed-up with my lifestyle, who I was, and where I was headed in life. So... I guess I would have to say that my past life experiences are what led me to accept Islam (and of course Allah being the first and foremost reason I became Muslim). 

WHAT DID YOU THINK ABOUT ISLAM BEFORE YOU REVERTED AND HOW DID ISLAM CHANGE YOU AS A WOMAN?
One Chinese Muslimah: To be honest, (lol) I had NO clue what Islam was. I was so ignorant and oblivious in my own bubble, it didn't phase me that it was the Muslims who were FALSELY being accused of terrorist attacks of Sept 11. I had no idea who Muslims were and what Islam was and I just thought that everyone who "wrapped their head" were Indian (astughfurAllah). I had no concept of this religion and I think because of the lifestyle I was living, I never really saw many Hijabis or Muslims (even though where I am from, the Muslim population is highly dense masha'Allah). So because I had no clue what Islam was or what the beliefs were, I didn't think much of it. I think I cared too much about myself to even care about the people around me (Subhana'Allah)!

WHAT WOULD BE THE ADVICE YOU'D GIVE WOMEN WHO ARE INTERESTED IN ISLAM BUT ARE SKEPTICAL OF ACCEPTING IT DUE TO THE WAY MUSLIM WOMEN'S RIGHTS ARE STEREOTYPED BY THE MEDIA?

One Chinese Muslimah: This is a great question masha'Allah! Well, I grew up in Toronto and this city is highly populated with women who flaunt their private parts like it's second nature, men who chase after women like how dogs chase after their own tail, and where that $1,000,000 condo in downtown defines who you are. So as you can see, Toronto is an OVERLY materialistic, surface kind of city. There is not much else going on besides what you see on the surface. 

The bigger breasts you have the more beautiful and 'intelligent' you are (lol), the more make-up you have on your face the more 'natural' you are, and the more fashionable you are the more 'freedom' you have. I think the media has a HUGE part to do with why women in Islam are viewed as being "oppressed" because we live now in a world where the less clothes you have on symbolizes more freedom, the more boyfriends you have symbolizes more happiness, and the more money you have symbolizes success. But this is exactly what the media wants to feed everyone- THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE OF THE TRUTH.

I once was a slave to the Western society and if it were not for Islam, I would still be living under the dictatorship of the media. It was only after I became Muslim, had I found the truth. Islam truly honours their women and Allah has blessed us with His never ending Mercy to all the Muslim women. These women are pure, humble, educated, kind, respectful and well-mannered. They know where their self worth lies and it is not through showing off their chest or painting their faces like clowns on a Halloween night. These women are the strong foundation of a successful household. These women are looked after in a high regard and treated like absolute gold. These women are Muslim women. Where their chastity and modesty is what defines them. They do not need to prance around town looking half naked with fake breast, fake nails, and fake hair just to get some attention from strangers. The Muslim woman knows her status in society and she truly values everything that her Lord has given to her. Her modest black veil is her armour and her honour. It is HER choice, not the media's choice, not her husband's choice. This is a real woman. Everything else you see in the media, well, that's all just fake anyway, at the end of the day, their make-up comes off and they look as blank as a white wall. No self worth, no purpose, no confidence, because everything you see on the media is just a mirage. A facade to make you try to be someone you aren't. I think that is true oppression.

WHAT IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING THAT HAS TO BE CHANGED IN THE MUSLIM UMMAH OF TODAY?

One Chinese Muslimah: FULLY SUBMITTING TO ALLAH rather than to one's desires. Fearing Allah as He deserves to be feared. Giving Allah His Rights before demanding our rights from others. Following the Qur'an and CORRECT, AUTHENTIC Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) instead of following vain desires and innovating things into the religion. Following ISLAM and NOT cultural practices. Recognizing that Allah is ALL SEEING, ALL HEARING, ALL KNOWING. 
Do you think this could be done?

IS THERE ANYTHING YOU MISS FROM YOUR LIFE BEFORE REVERTING TO ISLAM?
One Chinese Muslimah: No, Alhamdulilah. Definitely NOT. 

ADVICE ON HOW TO APPROACH FAMILY AFTER ACCEPTING ISLAM?
 One Chinese MuslimahI think this depends on each person's family. I mean I can't speak on behalf of every revert out there because everyone's family members are different and have a different mentality and acceptance towards Islam. I would definitely say, make PLENTY ofDuaa and trust in Allah. Also, if you are worried about telling your family, perhaps you should start first with your actions. Show them how much you have changed and how much Islam has taken a positive affect on you and then slowly start talking about Islam and then let them know the reason for your change is because of Islam. If that doesn't work then just be patient. The life of a revert, subhan'Allah it is a challenge because after we have accepted the truth and this life rewarding gift from Allah, our commitment to our new found faith is tested by showing Allah our dedication and determination we have for this very gift He blessed us with. We are tested with the acceptance of our families and truly this is a big test (like most of theProphets - peace be upon them all). So I encourage you to seek help through patience and prayer and trust in Allah. If your conviction is true than Allah will always make a way out for you and with every hardship, there will be ease. Also, I think it is really important for the Ummah to show their support to the reverts. This is our DUTY and it is VITAL. You would never forsake a newborn baby on the side of the road, so please for the sake of Allah, lend a helping hand and your spare bedroom for the new revert (who may experience difficulties at first with their families!). Your efforts will never go unnoticed in the Sight of Allah.

WHAT IS THE HARDEST STEP TO OVERCOME WHEN WEARING THE NIQAB AND ANY ADVICE ON HOW TO OVERCOME THOSE DIFFICULTIES?
One Chinese Muslimah: When I first started wearing Niqab, I was so self conscious and nervous (lol). Mainly because I live in the middle of nowhere and American's here are not used to seeing any one other than their own skin colour (yah, sad reality). But I kept reminding myself I was doing it for Allah's Pleasure and it got easier Alhamdulilah. I was struggling to keep it on consistently at first but Alhamdulilah I now am full-time with it and feel the most safe and most modest in it. I encourage sisters to at least give it a try for one day and slowly take the steps to keep it on. It is one of the most beautiful pieces of cloth ever made, because it truly expresses the freedom, the beauty and the purity of a REAL WOMAN. Allahu Akbar. It also helps to know that our mothers of believers wore it like it was nobody's business ;) We should follow in their footsteps and represent!

WITH SO MANY HIJAB TRENDS PICKING UP, WHAT ADVICE WOULD YOU GIVE MUSLIMAHS WHO ARE MORE INCLINED TO FOLLOWING FASHIONABLE TRENDS?
  One Chinese Muslimah: Heeheee..for this question! 
Well, ummm, when I first became Muslim, I was highly inclined to follow the Hijabi blogger fashion trends. In fact I wanted to start my own blog as well (lol !). I was a fashion student and fashion model so I thought that once I became a Muslimah, there would be no problem in me incorporating fashion and Hijab! SUBHANA'ALLAH! Was I EVER WRONG. Alhamdulilah, Allah guided me and took me out of my ignorance. This is unacceptable in Islam. Hijab is meant to  deter attention away from you so why would you do the complete opposite? That goes against Islam.
I just wanted to say this:
Dear sisters in Islam, the most beautiful thing that the Muslim woman has, is her chastity, her modesty and her humility. By far, this is the most beautiful thing a woman could EVER have. Even when I was a non Muslim, I would have secret jealousy for the quiet, shy, modest type of women. There is just something that is so beautiful about being pure. So why would you want to change that sisters? Please think twice, and remember our purpose here on earth is not to be a slave to Shaitan and a fashion slave to society, we are here to worship Allah alone and not to associate any partners with Him, and not to put our desires before Him. Please kindly educate yourselves on the religion and learn the beauty of modesty and why we are commanded to cover the way we are supposed to. Nowhere does it say in the Qur'an or Sunnah that is it acceptable to wear bright fashion patterned Hijabs with makeup and accessories for strangers. This is something the kafirs do and we are not kafirs Alhamdulilah. Please set the trend and don't follow the trends being set by kafirs. The only makeup you need is the Noor glowing from your face from the obedience to Allah, The Almighty. Please, again, think twice before you step out of your home, ask yourself who you are trying to please? If you are dressed like a fashionista Hijabi blogger because you want to please yourself, or other people, then remember this is Shirk and it is a major sin in Islam. Fear Allah and know that He is Watching.
WHAT ARE 3 THINGS YOU GENUINELY DISLIKE? 
One Chinese Muslimah
  1. The media.
  2. When I defrost chicken or beef and leave it in the fridge and there is a hole in the bag and it leaks ALL OVER THE FRIDGE, I seriously HATE this.
  3. Wet floors in public bathrooms with toilet paper everywhere. I truly dislike this.

WHAT ARE 3 THINGS YOU REALLY ADMIRE?
One Chinese Muslimah: 
  1. Sisters with good Akhlaq and Adaab
  2. Sisters who fear Allah 
  3. Sisters who know what they are doing is wrong and actually take advice genuinely and act upon it. This is amazing masha'Allah.
TELL US 3 WAYS IN WHICH THE NIQAB HAS CHANGED YOU LIFE
One Chinese Muslimah:   
  1. It has helped me be more modest when I am out in public with my speech, my actions and my manners.
  2. The Niqab has really helped my confidence subhana'Allah. I find the less clothes you have on or the more you need to follow up with fashion trends and drown your face with the entire Nars makeup line, the more low self confidence you truly have (because you feel the need to make up for your character or lack thereof) and the more clothes you wear to cover up your adornments means that you have more confidence and a good sense of intellect and self worth (because you know that you're beautiful and you don't need to flaunt it to the world just to gain temporary satisfaction). Real women do not need to revolve themselves around making youtube videos of beautifying your Hijab or how to wear the latest fashion trends because real Muslimah women know their role in society and know that their modesty and their beauty is something sacred and forbidden from strangers. I see so many Youtube videos and Hijabi bloggers these days showing off their fashion trends and even including their husbands in their videos showing all the sisters "my husband tying my hijab" or such nonsense? Subhana'Allah. Hijab should NOT be that complex should it? Like do we really need a video with 100 ways to tie your Hijab? Because I don't see that anywhere in the Qur'an or Sunnah...May Allah guide these sisters to the straight path and open up their eyes to all the possible dangers and consequences that their ignorant actions can cause. Ameen. 
  3. It has made me more thankful to Allah that He chose me and gave my taufeeq to abide by His commands and to not follow my own desires. Alhamdulilah. May He continue keep me guided and steadfast upon the truth until my last breath. Ameen
A SPECIAL QURANIC VERSE TO LIVE BY? 

One Chinese Muslimah: Can I add more than one? hee hee, there are just WAY too many that we all need to live by!!


"For each one are successive [angels] before and behind him who protect him by the decree of Allah. Indeed, Allah will not change the condition of a people until they change what is in themselves. And when Allah intends for a people ill, there is no repelling it. And there is not for them besides Him any patron." (Ar-Rad :11)
 “It may be that you dislike a thing and Allaah brings through it a great deal of good” [Al-Nisa’ 4:19] 
 "Whatever misfortune befalls you is a consequence of your own deeds. But much of it He forgives" (42:30) 
 
A SPECIAL HADITH FOR MUSLIM WOMEN TO LIVE BY?
One Chinese Muslimah: ( I have to add two, is that ok? lol) 
“Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by hating it and feeling that it is wrong] – and that is the weakest of faith” (Narrated by Muslim, 49) 


‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:
 Women are but an ‘awrah (something private to be covered). A woman might leave her house without there being any problem with her, but the Shaytân seeks her out and says [to her], “You will not pass by anyone except that you will impress/please him.” A woman puts on her clothes and is asked where she is going, to which she replies, “To visit a sick person,” or “to attend a funeral”, or “to pray in the masjid”; but a woman never worships Allâh in the way she does when she worships Him in her house.
Al-Tabarânî. Graded sahîh by Shaykh Al-Albânî in Sahîh Al-Targhîbi wa Al-Tarhîb Vol. 1 p84.

YOUR GO-TO QURANIC VERSE OR HADITH THAT CALMS YOU WHEN YOU'RE DOWN?
  One Chinese Muslimah: “Know that the life of this world is only play and amusement, pomp and mutual boasting among you, and rivalry in respect of wealth and children, as the likeness of vegetation after rain, thereof the growth is pleasing to the tiller; afterwards it dries up and you see it turning yellow; then it becomes straw. But in the Hereafter (there is) a severe torment (for the disbelievers, evil-doers), and (there is) Forgiveness from Allah and (His) Good Pleasure (for the believers, good-doers), whereas the life of this world is only a deceiving enjoyment. ( Al-Hadid 57: 20)


The Messenger of Allah (sal Allahu alaihi wa sallam) said: “Whoever is in love with his life in this world damages his life in the next world, and whoever is in love with his life in the next world damages his life in this world – and you should prefer what lasts forever to what is destined to vanish.” [Ahmad ibn Hanbal; al-Musnad]
 

A WORD OF ADVICE FOR SISTERS WHO WANT TO WEAR THE NIQAB BUT ARE RELUCTANT TO DO SO FOR FEAR OF WHAT THEIR FAMILY OR SOCIETY MAY SAY
One Chinese Muslimah: Remember WHO you are doing it for and remember, nothing looks more honourable and beautiful than a woman in her Niqab and her Abaya. This is just the reality! Set the trend, don't be a follower!

FINALLY, A SHORT MESSAGE FOR ALL MUSLIMAHS:
One Chinese Muslimah: Dear sisters in Islam,

Firstly, I would like you to please take a look at this verse, 
‘[This is] a surah which We have sent down and made [that within it] obligatory and revealed therein verses of clear evidence that you might remember.’ (An-Noor 24:1)
Notice that Allah Subhanahu wa' t'ala says We have sent down and MADE (that within it) "obligatory" and "revealed therein verses of clear evidence" 

In the same Surah, Allah later commands us : 
"And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, head-cover, apron, etc.), and to draw their veils all over Juyubihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband's fathers, or their sons, or their husband's sons, or their brothers or their brother's sons, or their sister's sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful." (An-Noor 24: 31) 

So as many of you see, by clear proof, Allah has commanded the verses within this Surah(and everything else He commands us to do in the Qur'an) to be obligatory upon us. 

There is a big problem within the Ummah of today, and there is no denying it and that is the disappearance of modesty.

Many of us have taken our desires as first priority rather than the Qur'an and authentic Sunnah. Music, non-mahrams, adorning oneself with excessive makeup and fashion trends, sharing personal beautified photos of oneself all over the internet, wasting hours at the mall, watching movies men and idolizing celebrities, cursing and idle talk. These actions are nothing different than that of kafirs, and Subhana'Allah, even some kafirs use their time more wisely. So I'd like to ask you all, what are you doing with your time? What kind of message are you trying to convey to the Ummah? Are you trying to share the message of Tawheed, la ilaha illAllah, through your makeup-Hijab blogs? Your fashion statements? Your non-mahram relationships? 

I have been through this dunya and back and Alhamdulilahi Rabbil' Aalimeen Allah has guided me and taken me out of that dark hole I was once living in. Fashion, music, fun and games... these things that so many of the Muslim youth are trying to attain, is nothing but a cheap tool of Shaitan to mislead the servants of Allah. It really is not worth it sisters. I really want to let you know, that the most beautiful thing a Muslim woman has, is her modesty. Her chastity and her humility is a possession that you all should be striving for. None of you should be striving for that LV purse or that fashion wardrobe because all of these things will leave you. Nobody should be striving for the next "Twilight" book series or the taste of alcohol (audubilah)! Why do we strive for the dunya when this life is only temporary?

How many of us are doing things to strive for Jannah? How many of us are striving to be like the mother of believers (May Allah be pleased with them all)?? Where has our dignity gone? Where has our jealousy for defending our religion gone to?

We say we LOVE ALLAH and His Messenger (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam), yet what exactly are we doing to show this to our Lord? What exactly are we doing to show that we love our beloved prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam)?? 
The answer is nothing. We do the complete opposite and we don't even fear Allah as He should be feared. We demand our rights from one another yet we don't even give Allah His SOLE RIGHT, and that is to worship HIM and HIM ALONE with NO partners. So why do we associate our desires with Allah? Why do we put our desires before our Creator? 

Sisters, re-evaluate your position in life, know that Allah is watching. If your parents found out half the things you did, what would they think? If even ANYBODY found out half the things you did, what would they think? So then what would Allah think?? If He is ALL SEEING, ALL KNOWING, ALL HEARING? 

I mean no harm sisters, I really don't. But it pains to see my sisters in Islam follow blindly what I once was following. It wrecked me and destroyed me, and it is only because of Islam that I am recovering and growing again Alhamdulilah. Out of fear of Allah and out of love for His sake, is why I'm giving you this sincere advice. Time is with Allah, time is not with us and all we do is waste it on frivolous things that will not benefit our Hereafter. Imitating the kafirs and the things we see in the media will not save us from the Hellfire, it will only bring us closer (naudubilah)!!

Detach yourselves away from this poison as fast as you can and repent to Allah and seek His guidance and His aid. Follow the path of the Salaf and not the path of Shaitan. Learn your religion and seek the proper authentic Islam from the Qur'an and authentic Sunnah... before it's too late. When you are screaming in your grave, nobody will be able to hear you, and you won't be given a second chance.


May Allah forgive me if I have said anything to offend you all, all good is from Him and anything evil or with error is from my own self and I seek refuge in Him from Shaitan the accursed.