Sunday, June 15, 2014


Lately, I have felt the urge to write about a topic that many women can relate to. A topic that many women feel can liberate or oppress them. A topic which once was defined by each individual has now become defined by the mass media.


What is true beauty?

Well, beauty can be defined on many different levels. For example, beauty can be defined by some as "perfectly shaped eyebrows, beautiful hair extensions, a big (fake) chest, makeup artist skills, designer wardrobe, collagen injected face, fake nails, flawless skin etc.. " or true beauty could also be defined as " a pure kind heart, a natural face with no makeup, a smile, good manners, beautiful character, etc.." The definitions can be very broad but what we see in today's society is that true beauty is defined by the first definition. Surely, there are some marketing campaigns out there that try to advertise beauty as unconventional and not your typical 5'10, 120lbs, big chested, luscious hair extensions, all-year-around summer glow, flawless makeup routine etc.. Yes, we get that. Of course, usually these marketing campaigns are made to target a certain group of people (i.e- the yogis, the vegan lover, the "be comfortable in your own skin-even if it means be naked..) so either way, we know that it is the media who defines what beauty is because they want to make money and need to try to target every kind of people out there.

Well, what about targeting Muslim women ? Or Orthodox Jews and Christians? What about us women who find true beauty in covering our beauty? Why can we never find advertisements that express the true beauty of covering and remaining chaste and modest? See, the mass media never will consider this as true beauty. According to them and to the Western society, "true beauty" is not hidden. It is not something that should be concealed and kept in private for the people who matter ( i.e- husband, & permissible family members). True beauty is defined as "if you got it, flaunt it like no tomorrow!" This is true beauty in the eyes of many. When these kind of people see a Muslim woman or a conservative Jewish woman , they think  "wow so backwards and old fashioned! What is wrong with them?!" ...did they ever wonder that being dressed half naked dates back to the cavemen and prehistoric era? If anyone would be old-fashioned and backwards, then it is these very people! Subhana'Allah !

“Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: ‘If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.’”
Since when did other people, especially the media , dictate to US women WHAT is true beauty? Brainwashing thousands of innocent young women who are impressionable and naive and who do not know better, thinking they are overweight and hideous because they do not have fake breasts and fake-everything! How can true beauty be true when it has a price tag on it? When you need to buy your lips, your eye colour, your hair colour, your breast size, and your fat cells?! Since when has this become TRUE beauty? When the price tag of your shirt and pants cost more than your university tuition? Subhana'Allah! I wonder at such a thought ...How can this be true beauty when half of us can not even afford it?! No, this is not true beauty.. it can not be! This is something unattainable and extremely irrational! It truly breaks my heart when i browse through my instagram the public accounts in which all these women who many Muslimah women are trying so hard to copy; covered with makeup and expensive clothing ! Comments below by many women "wow gorgeous!" " OMG U ARE PERFECT"...


True is something that can never be attained except by the modesty of a believing woman. She knows that her Lord has created the man as weak and she knows that her beauty is not made to cause fitnah and lure others into a lustful trap! True beauty is when a woman knows that she has been ordered to COVER every part of her private parts from impermissible wandering eyes! The beautiful one is she who knows her worth and her value and she keeps it from the strange aliens of predators in this dangerous world!  True beauty is not showing off her beauty to everyone and anyone , but true beauty is when she preserves herself and her modesty for hers truly, Allah (and her husband) . True beauty is the woman who knows that she has been blessed with natural beautiful hair, lips, chest, and not needing to change or alter anything because she is pleased with what her Lord has given her!!! True beauty is NOT wanting to conform to society nor imitate everybody other girl on Instagram! True beauty is shyness, purity, and humility.
True beauty is the love we have for Allah.

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Stop making excuses for oneself- THE POISONED ARROW .

great great great reminder about lowering the gaze. 
This lecture helps explain everything that I want to say but this brother says it way better than I could. Please be mindful and do not stare at him while listening to the lecture.. I always recommend to play the lecture while maybe cooking, cleaning or doing a hobby that allows you to multi-task (listening while working - i.e - sewing, knitting, crochet ..etc)