Friday, August 22, 2014

A Forgotten Gem !


Assalamualaikum !

A lovely blog looking for reverts and sisters who turned back to Allah www.theoysterandthepearl.blogspot.com is currently looking for sisters who want to share their story to encourage others to see the beauty of Islam and to turn back to Allah ! You can e-mail them and use an anonymous alias if you do not want to share your real identity! But this website is a beautiful little gem that shares beautiful stories of reverts young and old, new and not-so-new ! Please do take a look and enjoy insha'Allah !

Thursday, August 21, 2014

A Good Lesson for All !

" For each (person), there are angels in succession, before and behind him.They guard him by the Command of Allah. Verily! Allah will not change the good condition of a people as long as they do not change their state of goodness themselves (by committing sins and by being ungrateful and disobedient to Allah). But when Allah wills a people's punishment, there can be no turning back of it, and they will find besides Him no protector."
 (Qur'an Surah Ar-Rad 13:11)
Shaykh Saalih Ibn Fawzaan Al-Fawzaan (hafidhahullaah) stated:
“The actions, disbelief and evil of the Yahood (Jews) is well known, even (with regards) to (their relationship) with their Prophets. They killed their Prophets and (also) is that which occurred with Kaleemullaah – Moosaa (‘alayhis salaam), such as what Allah has related in the Qur`an (regarding) the story of Moosaa and Haaroon (‘alayhimas salaam).
The character, disbelief, misguidance and evil of the Yahood is well known – even towards their Prophets – but what is obligatory upon us (Muslims) is that we ponder and rectify our deviated affairs and repent to Allah because the Yahood have not gained the upper hand over us except due to our sins. Why is it that we do not hear anyone addressing and admonishing the Muslims whilst saying to them:
‘What has happened to you is (nothing else) but as a result of your turning away from the religion of Allah and negligence in the affairs of the Deen. So repent to Allah in order that Allah may aid you and avert the plot of the plotters from you.’
We do not hear except insult, abuse, and supplication against the Yahood,but this should be substituted with supplicating to Allah to rectify the Muslims and to make them steadfast. And to mention to the Muslims that they should repent and return to Allah, and rectify their Deen for the sake of Allah. This is the first obligation.
As for supplication against an oppressor – be it the Yahood or other than them – then there is nothing wrong with this. It is legislated to supplicate against the one who oppress you with the sharee’ah supplications, the supplications found in the Book and the Sunnah. But before supplicating against them, you should supplicate to Allah to rectify the Muslims and to make the Muslims steadfast upon their Religion and return them to the truth. (And) advise, address and admonish (them) with regards to (obedience to) Allah. This is what is obligatory.”
From: Al-Ijaabaatul Muhimmah Fil Mashaakil Al-Mulimmah, pg. 202

Sunday, June 15, 2014

INSPIRE YOURSELF WITH THE TRUTH! WHAT IS TRUE BEAUTY???!



Lately, I have felt the urge to write about a topic that many women can relate to. A topic that many women feel can liberate or oppress them. A topic which once was defined by each individual has now become defined by the mass media.

TRUE BEAUTY.

What is true beauty?

Well, beauty can be defined on many different levels. For example, beauty can be defined by some as "perfectly shaped eyebrows, beautiful hair extensions, a big (fake) chest, makeup artist skills, designer wardrobe, collagen injected face, fake nails, flawless skin etc.. " or true beauty could also be defined as " a pure kind heart, a natural face with no makeup, a smile, good manners, beautiful character, etc.." The definitions can be very broad but what we see in today's society is that true beauty is defined by the first definition. Surely, there are some marketing campaigns out there that try to advertise beauty as unconventional and not your typical 5'10, 120lbs, big chested, luscious hair extensions, all-year-around summer glow, flawless makeup routine etc.. Yes, we get that. Of course, usually these marketing campaigns are made to target a certain group of people (i.e- the yogis, the vegan lover, the "be comfortable in your own skin-even if it means be naked..) so either way, we know that it is the media who defines what beauty is because they want to make money and need to try to target every kind of people out there.

Well, what about targeting Muslim women ? Or Orthodox Jews and Christians? What about us women who find true beauty in covering our beauty? Why can we never find advertisements that express the true beauty of covering and remaining chaste and modest? See, the mass media never will consider this as true beauty. According to them and to the Western society, "true beauty" is not hidden. It is not something that should be concealed and kept in private for the people who matter ( i.e- husband, & permissible family members). True beauty is defined as "if you got it, flaunt it like no tomorrow!" This is true beauty in the eyes of many. When these kind of people see a Muslim woman or a conservative Jewish woman , they think  "wow so backwards and old fashioned! What is wrong with them?!" ...did they ever wonder that being dressed half naked dates back to the cavemen and prehistoric era? If anyone would be old-fashioned and backwards, then it is these very people! Subhana'Allah !

“Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: ‘If you feel no shame, then do as you wish.’”
[Al-Bukhari]
Since when did other people, especially the media , dictate to US women WHAT is true beauty? Brainwashing thousands of innocent young women who are impressionable and naive and who do not know better, thinking they are overweight and hideous because they do not have fake breasts and fake-everything! How can true beauty be true when it has a price tag on it? When you need to buy your lips, your eye colour, your hair colour, your breast size, and your fat cells?! Since when has this become TRUE beauty? When the price tag of your shirt and pants cost more than your university tuition? Subhana'Allah! I wonder at such a thought ...How can this be true beauty when half of us can not even afford it?! No, this is not true beauty.. it can not be! This is something unattainable and extremely irrational ! It truly breaks my heart when i browse through my instagram the public accounts in which all these kafir women who many Muslimah women are trying so hard to copy! I see these kafir women, dress half naked, skin tight everything- even their faces ! Covered with makeup and expensive clothing ! Comments below by many women "wow gorgeous!" " OMG U ARE PERFECT" and let us not forget the Arab men who ALWAYS have to give their two cents of an opinion because they do not know how to fear Allah and stay away from the impermissible "jamilah ...wowwww"  , "heloo, woowww ", "nayceee, wher u from" ??!!! SUBHANA'ALLAH! What is THIS?!
IS THIS TRUE BEAUTY? These women using their fake goods to entice women and men of all ages and brain sizes! Subhan'Allah.. this is unfair.. this is just not right! The shaitan has won?!!!!!

La.

True beauty....it is something that can never be attained except by the modesty of a believing woman. She knows that her Lord has created the man as weak and she knows that her beauty is not made to cause fitnah and lure others into a lustful trap! True beauty is when a woman knows that she has been ordered to COVER every part of her private parts from impermissible wandering eyes! The beautiful one is she woman who knows her worth and her value and she keeps it from the strange aliens of predators in this dangerous world! True beauty lies in her assertiveness and boldness when she steps out of her home in her PROPER HIJAB/NIQAB, her loose gown and her feet COVERED. True beauty lies in the woman who fears her Lord and know her goal is not the dunya but the akhirah! True beauty is the woman who saves her self for ONE MAN not EVERY MAN!  True beauty is not showing off her beauty to everyone and anyone , but true beauty is when she preserves herself and her modesty for hers truly, Allah (and her husband) . True beauty is the woman who knows that she has been blessed with natural beautiful hair, lips, chest, and not needing to change or alter anything because she is pleased with what her Lord has given her!!! True beauty is NOT wanting to conform to society nor imitate the kafirs and look just like them! True beauty is something that the disbeliever will never experience until they become a Muslim woman. True beauty is the woman who heeds to the Qur'an and Sunnah and follows truly her Lord's Command and not her desires! True beauty is shyness, purity, and humility. True beauty is a Muslim woman, the one who fears her Lord and knows that He is watching. She hears, and she obeys.. This, my sisters in Islam , is TRUE BEAUTY.

“It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allaah and His Messenger, he has indeed strayed into a plain error”
[al-Ahzaab 33:36] 

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”
[al-Noor 24:31] 

Thursday, June 12, 2014

Stop making excuses for oneself- THE POISONED ARROW .






bismillahir-Rahmanir-Rahim
great great great reminder about lowering the gaze. 
This lecture helps explain everything that I want to say but this brother says it way better than I could. Please be mindful and do not stare at him while listening to the lecture.. I always recommend to play the lecture while maybe cooking, cleaning or doing a hobby that allows you to multi-task (listening while working - i.e - sewing, knitting, crochet ..etc) 




Saturday, May 31, 2014

are YOU free?


"Truly, the life of this world is nothing but a [quick passing] enjoyment, and verily, the Hereafter that is the home that will remain forever.)"
(Qur'an 40:39)

Sorry for the LONG gap, I have been very busy with some personal matters and it has been taking up much of my time! But insha'Allah i will try my best to keep writing (BidhniAllah) ....



It has now been three years since I took my Shahadah (March 2011) and though I am still fairly new to Islam, I have learnt a lot about myself and what being a Muslim woman is all about. I still remember the day I took my Shahadah like it was yesterday; when I repeated those mighty, heavy words it was as if a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders and it was as if I was finally free from all the heavy burdens I had been carrying for nearly 26 years of my life. I could finally breath. I was free from my past, I was free from oppression, I was free from being a slave to my own desires and from being a slave to society. I WAS FREE!!!!!!!! Allahu Akbar. 

The feeling of FREEDOM still remains with me and not a day goes by do I thank Allah for the gift of guidance to His BEAUTIFUL RELIGION, Islam. However, not a day goes by do I struggle with the media and society trying to dictate to me what MY religion is. The western society and media feel that they are entitled to make ignorant assumptions about WHAT Islam means, WHO Muslims are, and WHY Muslim women are oppressed. Well, as a Muslim woman AND as a convert to Islam, I feel that it is MY duty to clear up some misinterpretations which not only make the beautiful religion of Allah look terrible, but I'd love to also let the media know that it is not the HEADSCARF or the NIQAB that oppresses us, but it is merely your IGNORANCE that oppresses us.

Let me begin with a little bit about myself: I was born and raised in Toronto, Canada and it is one of THE most busy, diverse and multicultural cities in the West. I was a fashion student who dedicated my life to Vogue/Elle/Fashion magazines, fashion shows, fashion models, and living a very materialistic lifestyle. I was a VIP in the party scene and I was also a hardcore gym 'junkie' and my body image was the most important thing in my life and I worshiped celebrities and had no religion, no morals and values. I lived for the moment, there was no filter with my words and I didn't care who you were or what you did, if I didn't like you,  you would know it. I mistreated my parents and I was selfish, extremely arrogant, and had no self-respect and no respect for others. The media played a huge role in my life and I basically educated myself through television and movies and they dictated to me what kind of woman I should be in society.

Sooo.....that WAS me in a nutshell. Definitely nothing to be proud of but Alhamdulillah, Allah, The Almighty took me out of this dark hole and guided me with light. What I want to start off with is to let everyone know (Muslim or not) that without a strong foundation of good morals, ethics, and values the individual not only becomes corrupt but so does the society as a whole. Whether you are educated or not, we can all agree on this because it is just common sense and our basic understanding of good vs bad. But the point I am about to make here, is what confuses many and even causes opposition from many individuals (even including Muslims, Subhana'Allah). The reason why society becomes corrupt is because the woman are corrupted in some way, shape of form (or all for that matter) and once the woman is corrupt then it has a major domino effect on herself, her husband, and her family; once she is down than the entire household goes down with her. 

Many, many, many people may disagree with me but this is not merely based on my opinion because if you look around you or even within your own family members, somewhere in between, you will find that there is a divorce, a single mother (not by choice), and immodesty sweeping the nation by storm. If you don't agree with me in that regard then please, let us explore the media and see just exactly what kind of women has society produced. 

Even though I do not own a television and I refuse to watch movies, (which is another entire topic on it's own) one can surely find out what is going on in the online and offline world with a simple Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and any other type of social networking program. What I have been witnessing (and I know you all can not deny) is horrendous, horrific, and disgusting. I can't believe just how low woman (and I am referring here to the kuffar) have made themselves and how absolutely satanic every single pop star or celebrity has become?! This is what is flooding the homes of millions and billions of families each and every day; half naked women dancing around on stage and on streets like dogs and honking like donkeys with absolutely no sense of shame AT ALL.

I can't believe that I was SO desensitized from all this before Islam. It never phased me that these women are possessed and hypnotized and sold their own self worth and self respect just for a cheap bargain of the worldly life! They have chosen to submit themselves to the devil and are trying to bring down innocent young women along with them. These women try to corrupt the fitrah of every single person and inject them with their virus. Shaitan uses these womens as his slaves to brainwash women into leaving their modesty while encouraging them to fornicate and show-off as much of their awrah (private parts) as possible. He uses women to promote empowerment through nakedness, hatred through vulgar cursing and slandering, and he even goes as far as making women dress as men so that they can subconsciously feel more dominant and powerful than men! Subhana'Allah. All this for what? A hot seat in Hell (AUDHUBILLAH!!!!!) ??!  

Yes, many Muslim women are seen these days imitating these slaves of shaitan and I mean how can we blame them? When every Muslim parent has a television in their home and they themselves do not even submit fully to Allah and fear Him, how can we then expect our youth, our next generation to lead righteous lives and follow the correct Sunnah of the prophet Muhammad (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam)? The moment we submit to our desires is the very moment shaitan sneaks into the door to your heart and one small "innocent" little sin...will eventually turn into bigger sins which then will cause us to fall into the greatest sins of them all! (and May Allah protect us from such diseases of the heart and from His Punishments! Ameen) ... submitting to your own desires, following those fashion hijabi girls and idolizing them like they are some sort of fashion guru's gift to society..or following young celebrity boys?! ...AstughfurAllah!?! These people will not help clean your heart, they will only blacken it! Do not follow them in their footsteps, remove yourselves from their circles and follow those who actually will benefit you and your akhirah ! 

Truly in the body there is a morsel of flesh, which, if it be whole, all the body is whole, and which, if it is diseased, all of [the body] is diseased. Truly, it is the heart.” 

There is no more remembrance of Allah in our hearts and there is no more desire to follow the Sunnah of our beloved prophet. The Sunnah that he (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) worked so hard to preserve has now vanished. Somewhere along the way we became arrogant and that arrogance took over and caused us to become ignorant. Ignorant in the deen of Allah, the Almighty, The Master of The Day of Judgement, The Owner, The Creator, The Most Merciful, The Oft Forgiving. He, the only One who deserves to be worshiped. He is Allah. He is the One who gave you your first breath, your eyesight, your hearing, your beauty, your wealth, your family, your ability to eat, sleep, breath. He is the Almighty, the One who gave you an education; He is the One who gave you wealth so that you could give it away to the poor and the needy. He is the One who gave you wealth so that you could spend it in His Way. 

Do we really want to follow the puppets of shaitan and become like those dirty women that he has brainwashed and used to his advantage? Islam gives women respect, honour, and purity! Why do we want to ruin that with the dirty dunya devils!?! We must remember that we are strangers in this world and that is what makes us FREE!!! Free from the shackles of the shaitan and free from submitting to our desires ! We are the slaves of Allah and nothing is more liberating and honourable then this title!!

So what have we done? Where have we gone ? Where has our desires taken us? Who is our Lord and who is our Prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) ? What is our religion and what have we done with it? The only way we can find the answers to these life saving questions is by cleaning our hearts with the remembrance of Allah and by following the Sunnah of our prophet Muhammad (sallalhu aleyhi wasselam). When we HEAR we OBEY and not to our desires but to Allah alone. The proofs are clear and the religion is made to be easy and moderate because of the Mercy of Allah! 

Evaluate yourself and who your friends are...ask yourself : If I were to die right now, what will I bring to Allah? Will I be able answer the three dreadful questions in the grave? Will Allah be pleased with me when I meet Him? 

I guarantee you, you won't be ready to meet your Lord.