Wednesday, February 29, 2012

The Power of The Media (NOW in Arabic Translation!)




This video spoke to me loudly when I had not yet come to Islam. I was a slave to the media. I spent my loose change on the latest issues of Vogue, US weekly, Cosmopolitan, and all the garbage magazines out there today.
I spent money on makeup, clothes, and hair-dyes so that I can look a certain way. I lost count with the gym memberships I signed up to because I felt that the more physically fit I looked, the more successful I would be in life....but with WHAT exactly would I be more successful with?


Do you really want to be a slave to media?
This simple video depicts how human beings are so absorbed with what they see on the television.
We are machines striving to be something bigger and better but at the end we will always remain weak creatures.
It is not up to the media to tell us how we should look like or what we should wear because the media is what corrupts the world today. Be it with news, music, movies, and tv shows. Look around you, everyone has become a slave to the media! Why are you one of them?

 The media did NOT create your Creator, the media is the devil and it pollutes your senses into thinking you can be something that you are not.

Allah has all Knowledge of what you are, and who you are. He created your beauty, your heart, your soul. Why would you let the media take this away from you? Why would you dare give into shaitan?


يأَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ فَلاَ تَغُرَّنَّكُمُ الْحَيَوةُ الدُّنْيَا وَلاَ يَغُرَّنَّكُمْ بِاللَّهِ الْغَرُورُ
35:5 O mankind! Verily, the promise of Allah is true. So, let not this present life deceive you, and let not the chief deceiver deceive you about Allah.
إِنَّ الشَّيْطَـنَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ فَاتَّخِذُوهُ عَدُوّاً
35:6 Surely, Shaytan is an enemy to you, so take (treat) him as an enemy.
إِنَّمَا يَدْعُو حِزْبَهُ لِيَكُونُواْ مِنْ أَصْحَـبِ السَّعِيرِ 
He only invites his followers that they may become the dwellers of the blazing Fire.


لاَ يَغُرَّنَّكَ تَقَلُّبُ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ فِى الْبِلَـدِ
3:196 Let not the free disposal (and affluence) of the disbelievers throughout the land deceive you.
مَتَـعٌ قَلِيلٌ ثُمَّ مَأْوَاهُمْ جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمِهَادُ
3:197 A brief enjoyment; then their ultimate abode is Hell; and worst indeed is that place for rest.
لَكِنِ الَّذِينَ اتَّقَوْاْ رَبَّهُمْ لَهُمْ جَنَّـتٌ تَجْرِى مِن تَحْتِهَا الاٌّنْهَـرُ خَـلِدِينَ فِيهَا نُزُلاٍ مِّنْ عِندِ اللَّهِ وَمَا عِندَ اللَّهِ خَيْرٌ لِّلأَبْرَارِ 
3:198 But, for those who have Taqwa of their Lord, are Gardens under which rivers flow (in Paradise); therein are they to dwell, an entertainment from Allah; and that which is with Allah is the best for Al-Abrar (the most righteous). 


I was a victim of the mass media market before and really it is unrealistic and unachievable to look like an airbrushed, plastic surgery enhanced puppet. It is just not possible. You will always want to look better, and more beautiful but you can't because even all the money in the world can't buy you that.
Money will not buy you a beautiful pure heart, and a beautiful cleansed soul.
Money will not buy you a place in the Gardens of Paradise.
But keep giving into shaitan and money will buy you a nice hot seat in the Hellfire.

So what will it be?
You decide.




هذا الفديو يمثلني قبل الاسلام ويمثل كل فتاة غربية أو "متغربة". مثل أي غربي أو "متغرب" كنت أحب بجنون البرامج التلفزيونية وعروض الأزياء ،المكياج الخ.. بذرت مالي في المجلات الأسبوعية المشهورة، وفي صبغات الشعر والملابس لكي أظهر بشكل معين كنت أراه من خلال برامج وأفلام المشاهير . لم اكتفي بذلك فقط, بل قمت بالاشتراك بالنوادي الصحية. ضيعت معظم وقتي بالتمارين والأدوية, ليس لأجل صحة أفضل بل ليصبح مظهري مثل مشاهير التلفاز. وكنت أعتقد أن هذا هو الحل الأمثل لحياة أفضل وأسعد....لكن أين هيا السعادة والراحة والحياة الأفضل في ذلك ؟ وأنا أضيع شبابي وعمري في أوهام ودوامة التلفاز التي لا يمكن ان تنتهي


          هل أنت حقا راغبة في أن تكوني فآر تجارب خاضع لغايات و افكار التلفاز المدمرة؟                      
 
هذا الفديو يصور حقيقة البشر في زمننا الحاضر وكيف أننا منومون مغناطيسيا من قبل الإعلام و البرامج الصاخبة . يغذون أفكارنا, أدمغتنا و معتقدانا بما يناسب غايتهم ومتطلعاتهم دون النظر الي الآثار الجانبية المترتبة علينا من خلال ما يبثون لنا عبر الشاشات .اخواتي في الاسلام والبشرية يجب ان نحرر عقولنا من السموم والافكار الهدامة التي زرعوها في عقولنا ونفكر بواقعية لا العكس . فلننظر الى العالم من حولنا بجميع المقاييس والاتجاهات ، ستجد ان البشرية تسير الى اللامبالاة ، الطمع ، الضعف العقيدي  و الى الجهل بالعلم . فكري  جيدا, التلفاز لم يخلق الاشياء الجميلة من حولك في هذا الكون سوى الخراب و لم يخلق مثقال حبة من نفع. انا وانت من خلق الله سبحانه وتعالى فلا تنجرفي في هذه الدوامة الوهمية. .يمكننا ان نعيش هذه الحياة بحرية وسعادة فلنستخدم هذه التقنية (التلفاز) ولكن بما يرضي الله عز وجل . يقول الله تعالى في القران الكريم:
 ﴿يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ فَلا تَغُرَّنَّكُمُ الْحَيَاةُ الدُّنْيَا وَلا يَغُرَّنَّكُمْ بِاللَّهِ الْغَرُورُ * إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ فَاتَّخِذُوهُ عَدُوّاً إِنَّمَا يَدْعُو حِزْبَهُ لِيَكُونُوا مِنْ أَصْحَابِ السَّعِيرِ﴾ [فاطر:7-6].

وقال الله تعالى : ﴿لا يغرنك تقلب الذين كفروا في البلاد متاع قليل ثم مأواهم جهنم وبيس المهاد. لكن الذين اتقوا ربهم لهم جنات تجري من تحتها الأنهار خالدين فيها نزلا من عند الله وما عند الله خير للأبرار.

كنت ضحية من ضحايا هذا الجهاز  ولكن بفضل من الله, أنقذني من هذه الظلمات وأهداني أجمل شيء في هذا الكون يمكن أن يمتلكه الانسان وهوا الاسلام . الاسلام يغير في قلوب البشر مالا يستطيع أن تغيره أموال الدنيا كلها. فيا أختي الفاضلة اعتزي بإسلامك وبما وهبك الله اياه من خير  

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Sunday, February 26, 2012

For those who say HIJAB isn't in the Qur'an??

Praise be to Allaah.  

Verses that have to do with hijab: 

1 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”
[al-Noor 24:31] 

2 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment. But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them. And Allaah is All‑Hearer, All‑Knower”
[al-Noor 24:60] 
“Women past childbearing” are those who no longer menstruate, so they can no longer get pregnant or bear children. 
We shall see below the words of Hafsah bint Sireen and the way in which she interpreted this verse. 

3 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) all over their bodies (i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will be better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allaah is Ever Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
[al-Ahzaab 33:59] 

4 – Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“O you who believe! Enter not the Prophet’s houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation. But when you are invited, enter, and when you have taken your meal, disperse without sitting for a talk. Verily, such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet, and he is shy of (asking) you (to go); but Allaah is not shy of (telling you) the truth. And when you ask (his wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not (right) for you that you should annoy Allaah’s Messenger, nor that you should ever marry his wives after him (his death). Verily, with Allaah that shall be an enormity”
[al-Ahzaab 33:53] 


With regard to the Ahaadeeth: 

1 – It was narrated from Safiyyah bint Shaybah that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) used to say: When these words were revealed – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – they took their izaars (a kind of garment) and tore them from the edges and covered their faces with them. 
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 4481. The following version was narrated by Abu Dawood (4102): 
May Allaah have mercy on the Muhaajir women. When Allaah revealed the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)”, they tore the thickest of their aprons (a kind of garment) and covered their faces with them. 

Shaykh Muhammad al-Ameen al-Shanqeeti (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: 
This hadeeth clearly states that what the Sahaabi women mentioned here understood from this verse – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – was that they were to cover their faces, and that they tore their garments and covered their faces with them, in obedience to the command of Allaah in the verse where He said “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” which meant covering their faces. Thus the fair-minded person will understand that woman’s observing hijab and covering her face in front of men is established in the saheeh Sunnah that explains the Book of Allaah. ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) praised those women for hastening to follow the command of Allaah given in His Book. It is known that their understanding of the words “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” as meaning covering the face came from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), because he was there and they asked him about everything that they did not understand about their religion. And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): 
“And We have also sent down unto you (O Muhammad) the Dhikr [reminder and the advice (i.e. the Qur’aan)], that you may explain clearly to men what is sent down to them, and that they may give thought”
[al-Nahl 16:44] 

Ibn Hajar said in Fath al-Baari: There is a report of Ibn Abi Haatim via ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Uthmaan ibn Khaytham from Safiyyah that explains that. This report says: We mentioned the women of Quraysh and their virtues in the presence of ‘Aa’ishah and she said: “The women of Quraysh are good, but by Allaah I have never seen any better than the women of the Ansaar, or any who believed the Book of Allaah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation. When Soorat al-Noor was revealed – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – their menfolk came to them and recited to them what had been revealed, and there was not one woman among them who did not go to her apron, and the following morning they prayed wrapped up as if there were crows on their heads. It was also narrated clearly in the report of al-Bukhaari narrated above, where we see ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her), who was so knowledgeable and pious, praising them in this manner and stating that she had never seen any women who believed the Book of Allaah more strongly or had more faith in the Revelation. This clearly indicates that they understood from this verse – “and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms)” – that it was obligatory to cover their faces and that this stemmed from their belief in the Book of Allaah and their faith in the Revelation. It also indicates that women’s observing hijab in front of men and covering their faces is an act of belief in the Book of Allaah and faith in the Revelation. It is very strange indeed that some of those who claim to have knowledge say that there is nothing in the Qur’aan or Sunnah that says that women have to cover their faces in front of non-mahram men, even though the Sahaabi women did that in obedience to the command of Allaah in His Book, out of faith in the Revelation, and that this meaning is also firmly entrenched in the Sunnah, as in the report from al-Bukhaari quoted above. This is among the strongest evidence that all Muslim women are obliged to observe hijab. 
Adwa’ al-Bayaan, 6/594-595. 

2 – It was narrated from ‘Aa’ishah that the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to go out at night to al-Manaasi’ (well known places in the direction of al-Baqee’) to relieve themselves and ‘Umar used to say to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), “Let your wives be veiled.” But the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not do that. Then one night Sawdah bint Zam’ah, the wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), went out at ‘Isha’ time and she was a tall woman. ‘Umar called out to her: “We have recognized you, O Sawdah!” hoping that hijab would be revealed, then Allaah revealed the verse of hijab. 
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 146; Muslim, 2170. 

3 – It was narrated from Ibn Shihaab that Anas said: I am the most knowledgeable of people about hijab. Ubayy ibn Ka’b used to ask me about it. When the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) married Zaynab bint Jahsh, whom he married in Madeenah, he invited the people to a meal after the sun had risen. The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) sat down and some men sat around him after the people had left, until the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) stood up and walked a while, and I walked with him, until he reached the door of ‘Aa’ishah’s apartment. Then he thought that they had left so he went back and I went back with him, and they were still sitting there. He went back again, and I went with him, until he reached the door of ‘Aa’ishah’s apartment, then he came back and I came back with him, and they had left. Then he drew a curtain between me and him, and the verse of hijab was revealed. 
Al-Bukhaari, 5149; Muslim, 1428. 

4 – It was narrated from ‘Urwah that ‘Aa’ishah said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) used to pray Fajr and the believing women would attend (the prayer) with him, wrapped in their aprons, then they would go back to their houses and no one would recognize them. 
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 365; Muslim, 645. 

5 – It was narrated that ‘Aa’ishah (may Allaah be pleased with her) said: “The riders used to pass by us when we were with the Messenger of Allaah (S) in ihraam, and when they drew near to us we would lower our jilbabs from our heads over our faces, then when they had passed we would uncover them again. 
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 1833; Ibn Maajah, 2935; classed as saheeh by Ibn Khuzaymah (4,203) and by al-Albaani in Kitaab Jilbaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah. 

6 – It was narrated that Asma’ bint Abi Bakr said: We used to cover our faces in front of men. 
Narrated by Ibn Khuzaymah, 4/203; al-Haakim, 1/624. He classed it as saheeh and al-Dhahabi agreed with him. It was also classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Jilbaab al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah. 

7 – It was narrated that ‘Aasim al-Ahwaal said: We used to enter upon Hafsah bint Sireen who had put her jilbab thus and covered her face with it, and we would say to her: May Allaah have mercy on you. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “And as for women past childbearing who do not expect wedlock, it is no sin on them if they discard their (outer) clothing in such a way as not to show their adornment” [al-Noor 24:60]. And she would say to us: What comes after that? We would say: “But to refrain (i.e. not to discard their outer clothing) is better for them”. And she would say: That is confirming the idea of hijab. 
Narrated by al-Bayhaqi, 7/93. 

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

A side note:

Assalamualaikum wa rahamatulahi wa barakatuhu!
This is just a reminder for the BROTHERS who visit my blog and comment. This is just a SISTER'S ONLY blog and by all means I can't stop you from reading my posts but PLEASE if you could possibly refrain from commenting on them out of respect for me, my fellow sisters, and my husband. I appreciate your support and all but I would feel more comfortable if you could please not comment on my posts. 
Just trying to follow the Sunnah to a TEE (as best I can anyway). 
Jazakallah Kheyrun Kathirun.



Monday, February 20, 2012

A GRAND REMINDER. PLEASE PASS IT ON.



"Have you seen he who has taken as his god his [own] desire, and Allah has sent him astray due to knowledge and has set a seal upon his hearing and his heart and put over his vision a veil? So who will guide him after Allah ? Then will you not be reminded? And they say, "There is not but our worldly life; we die and live, and nothing destroys us except time." And they have of that no knowledge; they are only assuming.And when Our verses are recited to them as clear evidences, their argument is only that they say, "Bring [back] our forefathers, if you should be truthful." Allah causes you to live, then causes you to die; then He will assemble you for the Day of Resurrection, about which there is no doubt, but most of the people do not know.And to Allah belongs the dominion of the heavens and the earth. And the Day the Hour appears - that Day the falsifiers will lose.And you will see every nation kneeling [from fear]. Every nation will be called to its record [and told], Today you will be recompensed for what you used to do.This, Our record, speaks about you in truth. Indeed, We were having transcribed whatever you used to do.So as for those who believed and did righteous deeds, their Lord will admit them into His mercy. That is what is the clear attainment. But as for those who disbelieved, [it will be said], Were not Our verses recited to you, but you were arrogant and became a people of criminals? And when it was said, 'Indeed, the promise of Allah is truth and the Hour [is coming] - no doubt about it,' you said, 'We know not what is the Hour. We assume only assumption, and we are not convinced.' "And the evil consequences of what they did will appear to them, and they will be enveloped by what they used to ridicule.And it will be said, "Today We will forget you as you forgot the meeting of this Day of yours, and your refuge is the Fire, and for you there are no helpers.That is because you took the verses of Allah in ridicule, and worldly life deluded you. So that Day they will not be removed from it, nor will they be asked to appease [ Allah ].Then, to Allah belongs [all] praise - Lord of the heavens and Lord of the earth, Lord of the worlds. And to Him belongs [all] grandeur within the heavens and the earth, and He is the Exalted in Might, the Wise." {45:23-37}

What is Happiness and Where can I find it?


Even though happiness is perhaps one of the most important things in life, science still can not explain much about it.  Its concept itself is elusive.  Is it an idea, emotion, virtue, philosophy, ideal, or is it just programmed in the genes?  There is no agreed upon definition for it, yet  still everyone seems to be selling happiness these days - drug dealers, pharmaceutical companies, Hollywood, toy companies, self-help gurus, and, of course, Disney, creator of the Happiest Place on Earth.  Can happiness really be purchased?  Is happiness achieved by maximizing pleasure, earning fame and fortune, or living a life of unlimited leisure?  The series of articles will briefly explore the evolution of happiness in Western thought, followed by the present cultural understanding in the West.  Finally, the meaning and a few means of attaining happiness in Islam will be discussed.

Evolution of Happiness in Western Thought

The Christian idea of happiness was based on a reported saying of Jesus,
“…now is your time of grief, I will see you again and you will rejoice, and no one will take away your joy” (John 16:22)
The Christian idea of happiness was developed over the centuries and, in turn, rested on a theology of sin, which, as St. Augustine explained in The City of God, taught that because of Adam and Eve’s original transgression in the Garden of Eden, true happiness was “unattainable in our present life.”[1]
In 1776, Thomas Jefferson, summarizing a good century of reflection on the subject in Europe and America, deemed the “pursuit of happiness” a “self-evident” truth.  By this time, the truth of happiness had been declared so often and so confidently that, for many, it scarcely needed evidence.  It was, as Jefferson said, self-evident.  To secure the “greatest happiness for the greatest number” had become the moral imperative of the century.  But just how “self-evident” was the pursuit of happiness?  Was it, in fact, so obvious that happiness was our naturally intended end?  Christians confessed that human beings pursued happiness during their earthly pilgrimage, but remained skeptical about its attainment.  Elsewhere, Jefferson himself was pessimistic whether the chase would ever be brought to a satisfying conclusion.  “Perfect happiness...was never intended by the Deity to be the lot of one of his creatures,” he specified in a letter of 1763, adding soberly that even “the most fortunate of us, in our journey through life, frequently meet with calamities and misfortunes which may greatly afflict us.”[2]  To “fortify our minds” against these attacks, he concluded, “should be one of the principal studies and endeavors of our lives.”
Whereas in the fifth century, Boethius could claim that “God is happiness itself,”[3]  by the middle of the 19th century, the formula was reversed to read “Happiness is God.”  Earthly happiness emerged as the idol of idols, the locus of meaning in modern life, the source of human aspiration, the purpose of existence, the why and the wherefore.  If  happiness was not, as Freud said, ‘in the plan of Creation,’[4]  there were those ready to alter the handiwork of the Maker to put it there by manufacturing, consuming, and exporting it as democracy and free-market economy (materialism).  As the philosopher Pascal Bruckner observed, “Happiness is the sole horizon of our contemporary democracies.”  As a surrogate religion, materialism relocated God to the shopping mall.

Happiness in Western Culture

In our culture, it is commonly believed that happiness is achieved when you become rich, powerful, or popular.  The young want to be that popular pop idol, the old dream of winning the jackpot.  We often seek happiness by removing all stress, sadness, and irritations.  For some, happiness lies in mood-altering therapies.  Eva Moskowitz, a historian, gives some idea of the American obsession with the gospel of therapy: “Today, this obsession knows no bounds…there are more than 260 [different kinds of] 12-step programs in America.”[5]
One reason we have so much trouble attaining happiness is that we have no idea about what it is.  Consequently, we make poor judgments in life.  An Islamic tale illustrates the relationship of judgment with happiness.
“Oh, great sage, Nasrudin,” said
the eager student, “I must ask you a
very important question, the answer
to which we all seek: What is the
secret to attaining happiness?”

Nasrudin thought for a time,
then responded.  “The secret of
happiness is good judgment.”

“Ah,” said the student.  “But how
do we attain good judgment?

“From experience,” answered
Nasrudin.

“Yes,” said the student.  “But how
do we attain experience?’

“Bad judgment.”

An example of our good judgment is knowing that materialistic comforts by themselves do not lead to lasting happiness.  Having reached that conclusion by our good judgment, we do not retreat into our comforts.  We continue to crave a happiness that seems out of reach.  We make more money thinking that is the way to become happy, and in the process neglect our family.  Most big events we dream of yield less sustained happiness than we hoped for.  In addition to getting less happiness than we expected or hoped for, we frequently do not know exactly what we want, what will make us happy or how to get it.  We misjudge.
Enduring happiness does not come from ‘making it.’  Imagine someone could snap their fingers and give you fame, fortune, and leisure.  Would you be happy?  You would be euphoric, but in the short run.  Gradually you would adapt to your new circumstance and life would return to its normal mix of emotions.  Studies show that big lottery winners after a few months are no happier than the average person!  To recover the joy, you would now need an even higher high.
Consider, too, how we have “made it.”  In 1957, our per-person income, expressed in today’s dollars, was less than $8,000.  Today it is $16,000.  With doubled incomes, we now have double the material goods that money can buy - including twice as many cars per person.  We also have microwave ovens, color TVs, VCRs, answering machines, and $12 billion a year worth of brand-name athletic shoes.
So are we happier?  No.  In 1957, 35 percent of Americans told the National Opinion Research Center they were “very happy.”  In 1991, only 31 percent said the same.[6]  Meanwhile, depression rates have soared.
God’s Prophet of Mercy said:
“True enrichment does not come through possessing a lot of wealth, but true enrichment is the enrichment of the soul.” (Saheeh Al-Bukhari)

The Merriam Webster online dictionary defines happiness as a state of well being or contentment, a pleasurable or satisfying experience.  Philosophers often define happiness in terms of living a good life.  Happiness has also been defined as a state of well-being, characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy.
In the past few years psychologists and researchers have been studying people all over the world to find out what exactly makes us happy.  Is it money, attitude, culture, memory, health, or altruism? New findings suggest that actions have a positive effect on happiness.  “Yes! Magazine” has come up with a list of scientifically proven strategies for becoming happy.   Not surprisingly they neatly correspond to the way God and His messenger Muhammad, may God praise him, have taught us to behave, which is an indication of the perfection of Islam.
Here in no particular order, are seven “scientifically” proven ways to increase happiness.
1.      Avoid comparisons.
According to Stanford psychologist Sonja Lyubomirsky[1], focusing on our own personal achievement instead of comparing ourselves to others, leads to greater satisfaction.  God says in the Quran, 
“Do not strain your eyes in longing for the things that we have given to some groups of them to enjoy, the splendour of the life of this world through which we test them.  The provision of your Lord is better and more lasting.” (Quran 20:131)
2.      Smile, even when you don’t feel like it.
“Happy people…see possibilities, opportunities, and success.  When they think of the future, they are optimistic, and when they review the past, they tend to savour the high points,” say Diener and Biswas-Diener.[2]
Prophet Muhammad , may God praise him, said, “Do not think little of any good deed, even if it is just greeting your brother with a cheerful smile.”[3] and “To smile in the face of your brother is charity given on your behalf.”[4]
One of Prophet Muhammad’s companions said, “Since the day I accepted Islam, the Messenger of God would never meet me without a smiling face.”[5]The late Islamic scholar Sheikh Bin Baaz, may Allah have mercy on him, said, “A smiling face indicates a good quality and causes blessed results – it indicates that one’s heart is free of rancour and it causes affection to grow between people”.
3.      Get out and exercise.
A Duke University study shows that exercise may be just as effective as drugs in treating depression.  Prophet Muhammad said: “A strong believer is better and more beloved in the sight of God than a weak believer.”[6]  He wasnot only talking in terms of faith and character, but also that optimum health and fitness were desirable traits in a believer.
4.      Make friends and treasure family.
Happier people tend to have good families, friends, and supportive relationships, say Diener and Biswas-Diener.[7]  “We don’t just need relationships, we need close ones” that involve understanding and caring.  Allah, the Exalted, says:  
“Worship God and join none with Him in worship, and do good to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, the poor, the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet). Verily, God does not like those who are proud and boastful.” (Quran 4:36)
Prophet Muhammad said, “Among the things that bring happiness to a believer in this life are a righteous neighbour, a spacious house and a good steed.”[8]  Islam places great emphasis on the solidarity of families, neighbourhoods and the wider community.
5.      Say thank you like you mean it.
People who keep gratitude journals on a weekly basis are healthier, more optimistic, and more likely to make progress toward achieving personal goals, according to author Robert Emmons[9].
At the core of the teachings of Islam is the idea that to be happy or content we must be grateful to God, not just for what we perceive to be blessings but for all circumstances.  Whatever condition we find ourselves in we are grateful and sure that it is good for us as long as we are following the teachings of God.  God said:
“Therefore, remember Me (God) and I will remember you, and be grateful to Me (for My countless Favours on you) and never be ungrateful to Me.” (Quran 2:152)
And (remember) when God proclaimed: ‘If you are grateful I will give you more (of My Blessings); but if you are ungrateful verily, My punishment is indeed severe.’ (Quran 14:7)
6.      Give it away, give it away now!
Make altruism, and giving in charity, part of your life, and be resolute about it.  Researcher Stephen Post says helping a neighbour, volunteering, or donating goods and services results in a “helper’s high,” and you get more health benefits than you would from exercise or quitting smoking.
Islam encourages people to be generous towards family, friends, neighbours, strangers and even enemies.  This is mentioned repeatedly throughout the Quran and the authentic traditions of Prophet Muhammad.
“Say: “Truly, my Lord blesses the provision for whom He wills of His slaves, and also restricts it for him, and whatsoever you spend of anything (in God’s Cause), He will replace it.   And He is the Best of providers.” (Quran 34:39)
The people came to the Prophet Muhammad, and asked, “If someone has nothing to give, what will he do?”  He said, “He should work with his hands and benefit himself and also give in charity (from what he earns).”  The people further asked, “If he cannot find even that?”  He replied, “He should help the needy who appeal for help.”  Then the people asked, “If he cannot do that?”  He replied, “Then he should perform good deeds and keep away from evil deeds and this will be regarded as a charitable deed.”[10]
7.      Put money low on your list of priorities.
People who put money high on their priority list are more at risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem, according to researchers Tim Kasser and Richard Ryan.  God’s messenger said, “Be happy, and hope for what will please you.  By God, I am not afraid that you will be poor, but I fear that worldly wealth will be bestowed upon you as it was bestowed upon those who lived before you.  So you will compete amongst yourselves for it, as they competed for it and it will destroy you as it did them.”[11]
Happiness is not only intense joy, it also involves contentment.  In the next article we will examine the role of happiness in Islam and discover that following the commandments of God is the path to righteousness, contentment and happiness.
Islam is the religion that is more than a religion; it is the religion that is a complete way of life.  Nothing is too small or too big to be covered by the teachings of Islam.  Rejoice and be happy, remain positive and be at peace.[1]This is what Islam teaches us, through the Quran and the authentic teachings of Prophet Muhammad, may God praise him.  Every single one of God’s commandments aims to bring happiness to the individual.  This applies in all aspects of life, worship, economics, and society.
Whoever works righteousness - whether male or female - while he (or she) is a true believer verily, to him We will give a good life (in this world with respect, contentment and lawful provision), and We shall pay them certainly a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do (i.e.  Paradise in the Hereafter).” (Quran 16:97)
As most of us have come to realise, happiness is that ethereal quality that encompasses contentment and peacefulness; it is the soft joy that causes our lips, faces and hearts to smile.   It is determined by faith in God and obedience to Him.  Thus happiness embodies the peace security and submission that is Islam.  The injunctions and regulations of Islam reinforce the happiness that comes from knowing God and they help to guarantee humankind’s happiness during life in this world.  However, Islam also emphasizes that the life of this world is nothing more than a means of attaining the Hereafter.  By following the guidelines of Islam it is possible to be happy while awaiting our eternal happiness.
Sometimes, in order to achieve happiness, people attempt to follow complicated paths; they fail to see the easier path that is Islam.  Happiness can be found in the solace that comes from being upon the truth.   It can be achieved by sincere worship, hastening to do virtuous, noble and beautiful deeds, and by performing acts of kindness or giving charity.  These things all have the potential to make us happy, every day, under any circumstances. Even giving the smallest charity, in order to please God, can bring a smile to your face and a feeling of joy to your heart.
“And the likeness of those who spend their wealth seeking God’s pleasure while they are sure and certain that God will reward them (for their spending in His Cause), is the likeness of a garden on a height; heavy rain falls on it and it doubles its yield of harvest.  And if it does not receive heavy rain, light rain suffices it.” (Quran 2:265)
Prophet Muhammad said, “Indeed amazing are the affairs of a believer!  They are all for his benefit. If he is granted ease then he is thankful, and this is good for him.   And if he is afflicted with a hardship, he perseveres, and this is good for him.”[2]  The nature of the human condition means that amongst the happiness there may be great sorrow and within the pain and despair there may be great joy.  A believer will accept God’s decree for him and lead a happy life free from total despair or unbearable pain.
Islam has the answer to all the problems that afflict humankind, and knowing this leads to happiness, because it allows us to look beyond the need for self-gratification, and the need to acquire possessions.    Following the teaching of Islam and striving to please God is a constant reminder that this life is but a transient pause on the way to life everlasting.   
But whosoever turns away from My Reminder (i.e.  neither believes in this Qur’an nor acts on its teachings) verily, for him is a life of hardship, and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection.” (Quran 20: 124)
God says in the Quran, “Verily!  I am Allah!  None has the right to be worshipped but I, so worship Me.”  (20:14).  The key to happiness is knowing and worshipping God.    When one worships and remembers the Creator as He should be worshipped and remembered,   happiness can be observed all around us, at any given moment and even on the darkest night.  It is there in the smile of a child, in the touch of a comforting hand, in the rain on parched earth, or in the smell of spring.  These things can make our hearts truly happy because they are manifestations of God’s mercy and love.  Happiness can be found in worship.
To find true happiness we must seek to know God, especially through His names and attributes.  Seeking beneficial knowledge brings happiness.  The angels flutter their wings and keep records of those who seek knowledge; the mere thought of this brings a smile of happiness to the face of a believer.   Our righteous predecessors understood the inherent happiness and joy to be found in striving to be close to God.
Outstanding Islamic scholar Ibn Taymiyyah, may God have mercy on him,once said, “I once became ill and the physician told me that reading and giving talks on knowledge would only exacerbate my condition.  I told him that I could not abandon these pursuits.  I asked him whether the body becomes stronger and sickness is repelled if the soul feels happy and joyful.  He replied in the affirmative, so I said my soul finds joy, comfort and strength in knowledge”.
Perfect happiness will only be available to us if we spend life everlasting in Paradise.  It is only there that we will find total peace, tranquillity and security.  It is only there that we will be free of the fear, anxiety and pain that are part of the human condition.  However the guidelines provided by Islam allow us, imperfect humans, to seek happiness in this world.  The key to being happy in this world and the next is seeking the pleasure of God, and worshipping Him, without associating partners with Him.
And of them there are some who say: “Our Lord! Give us in this world that which is good and in the Hereafter that which is good, and save us from the torment of the Fire! (Quran 2:201)
(http://www.islamreligion.com/articles/4342/)

Saturday, February 18, 2012

The Dispraise of Al-Hawaa (LOWLY DESIRES)



A rather great excerpt that caught my attention from a book written by Ibn Al-Qayyim where he discusses the importance of controlling ones lowly desires and how to overcome them with confidence and by seeking guidance only from Allah subhanahu' wa'tala.

There is much more to his book but this particular part caught my attention as it reminds me of the society today and how animals are even better than the human beings we see in this world today (i.e, the oppressors in Syria, Palestine (and other parts of the Middle East), the ones partaking in adultery, prostitution etc.)

Please take a quick read and reflect upon yourself. Insha'Allah I will post more excerpts from this book once I have gone through it all.

"That he should not choose for himself a state such that the unintelligible animal is 
better than him. Indeed the animal is able by means of his natural instincts to 
distinguish between beneficial and harmful situations, preferring the beneficial above the harmful. 

For the same purpose, man has been endowed with the faculty of reason. If he does not differentiate between what hurts or benefits him, or, in the case he realizes this but prefers what is harmful 
to him, then the status of an unintelligible animal is better than his. The evidence for 
this lies in the fact that an animal takes a share of enjoyment in the taste of food, 
drinks, and sexual relations that is not  attainable by man, and that it lives a 
comfortable life free from thought and worry. Hence it is driven to its slaughtering 
place preoccupied with its lusts due to the lack of knowledge about the consequences. 
Man will not procure the same damage done to the animal because of the intensity of 
the preoccupying thought, and the weakness of the used male organ, and so forth. Had 
the attainment of what is desired been a virtue, the right of man, who is the pure extract 
of the world, to it would have not been  diminished while making it abundant to the 
animals. In the augmentation of man's share of reasoning, knowledge, and cognition is a 
substitute for that (i.e. animalistic lust). "

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Celebrating a birthday or any other "happy" day?

According to saheeh reports, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever does something that is a not part of this matter of ours (i.e., Islam) will have it rejected” (reported by Muslim in his Saheeh); and “The best of speech is the Book of Allaah and the best of guidance is the guidance of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The most evil of things are those which have been newly invented (in religion), and every innovation is a going astray.” There are many other ahaadeeth that convey the same meaning.

Besides being bid’ah and having no basis in sharee’ah, these birthday celebrations also involve imitation of the Jews and Christians in their birthday celebrations. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said, warning us against following their ways and traditions: “You would follow the ways of those who came before you step by step, to such an extent that if they were to enter a lizard’s hole, you would enter it too.” They said, “O Messenger of Allaah, (do you mean) the Jews and Christians?” He said, “Who else?” (Reported by al-Bukhaari and Muslim). The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also said: “Whoever imitates a people is one of them.”

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Benefit from a fever?

Fever wipes out one’s sins and rids his body from dead substances and germs. It is a blessing in disguise.

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) said:

“When a believer gets sick or feverish, it is like metal when put on fire, the bad is gone and the good remains.”
[Al-Bayhaqi]
He sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) also describes the intensity of fever by saying:

“Fever is coal from hell, get rid of it by using cold water.”
[Ibn Maajah]
The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) forbade the cursing of fever by saying:

“Do not curse a fever because it abolishes sins like fire abolishes dirt from iron.”
[Ibn Maajah]
A bacterial or viral infection usually raises the temperature of a person, antibiotics are useless with viral infections, such as the influenza and the common cold, although the patient might sweat and have a very high fever.

Then what is the cure?

The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) tells us to reduce the fever with water. The same is still applied today. Putting cold pads on a patient’s forehead is still used in a lot of hospitals and by doctors even though fever reducing medicines are abundant, like aspirin, paracetamol (or acetaminophen, which is the active ingredient in Tylenol) and others.

Using water to reduce fevers is not limited to using cold pads. Drinking a lot of fluids is also helpful. This is also understood from the wordings of the Prophetic narration: “cool it with water.” Water is either what the patient drinks, what is given intravenously or what the patient puts on his face or body to cool the fever.

We have seen a lot of patients where fever reducing medicines (antipyretics) were not effective with their rising fever. At the same time, cold water had an immediate effect. That’s why pediatricians advise parents to take a child’s clothes off and give a lot of fluids if a fever occurs. An antipyretic might also be give like paracetamol. Aspirin has been banned for children under 12 years of age.

What is fever?

Fever occurs when the body temperature rises above normal (37 C). There is an area in the brain (an area that lies over the pituitary gland in the front of the head) which is a temperature regulator.

When a germ enters the body, it starts secreting toxins. Toxins affect the temperature regulator causing its temperature to rise. The substances that cause this rise in temperature are called pyrogens. Pyrogens are caused not only by germs but also by the ruined tissues in the body after being affected with germs.

When the temperature rises in the temperature regulator, the rest of the body has to comply. It increases its temperature in response. Soon, the whole body feels feverish and the patient’s temperature rises. This explains the saying of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) when he described the believers in their kindness and affections like the body. If a part of it suffers from a germ or a virus, like inflammation in the respiratory pathways or inflammation of the urinary tracts and others, all of the body suffers from fever and restlessness.

Yes the whole body suffers. The whole body has a rise in temperature and not only where it is affected. When the inflammation worsens, the germs increase and consequently ruin the tissues. The germs and the pyrogens will find the body’s defense system ready to attack and eat the by-products of the germs and rid the body of them. While doing this, it releases to the body fluids a substance called leukocyte pyrogens or endogenous. Therefore the fever remains while the body is cleansing itself from the by-products.

Didn’t the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (may Allaah exalt his mention) say, when a man cursed the fever:

“Don’t curse it because it abolishes sins like fire abolishes dirt from iron.”
It is a cleansing of our sins, a cleansing of dead substances such as dead tissue and the by-products of the germs, like fire cleans the dirt from iron.

The famous book on physiology by Guyton, 1992 edition, stated that an amount equal to one over 10 billionth of a gram of endogenous is enough for a fever to occur.

Such a small amount of a substance secreted in the body due to a very small germ or a virus is enough to transfer a person form being healthy, to becoming sick, feverish and bed ridden.

Imaam Ibn Al-Qayyim may Allaah have mercy upon him said: “I remember once, when I was feverish, a poet cursing the fever, saying.

The sin purifier has visited and left.

How evil it is when visiting and when

leaving

She asked while getting ready to leave What

do you want?

I replied, to never come again.

I said, shame on him, he cursed what the Prophet sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam ( may Allaah exalt his mention ) forbade to be cursed. If he had said:

The severe-sin cleanser has visited.

Greetings to it while visiting and while

leaving

She asked while getting ready to leave What

do you want?

I replied, to not leave.

It would have been better for him and it still would have left.”

Recent scientific studies have shown that this leukocyte pyrogens cause fever by making a substance called prostaglandin in the local glands in the area of the hypothalamus. When the growth of this kind of prostaglandin is inhibited, by using medicines, the fever is reduced. This explains how aspirin reduces fever. It inhibits the growth of prostaglandin and prevents its making.

The Prophet, sallallahu ‘alayhe wa sallam, said:

“For every ailment, there is a cure. If the cure reaches the ailment, it is cured by the will of Allaah.”
[Muslim]
That explains the known phenomena that aspirin does not reduce the temperature of a normal person who is not feverish. That is because he does not have these endogenous in his body to work on the hypothalamus.

How do chills occur and why?

The temperature level in the temperature regulator rises suddenly form its normal level to a higher level, due to damage in the tissues, due to the release of temperature generating substances or due to dehydration. When this happens, the body temperature rises within a few hours to attain the new temperature.

During this period, the patient shivers and feels cold, even though the body temperature is high, because blood vessels in the skin contract. The chills remain until the body temperature reaches the new level set by the temperature regulator.

When the body temperature reaches that level, the chills stop and the patient feels neither warm nor cold. As long as the infection continues and the reason for the rise in temperature continues, the body temperature remains at this new level until Allaah permits recovery.

(source: http://abdurrahman.org/health/fever.html)