Sunday, August 25, 2013

SMILE FOR THE CAMERA...?


Dear sisters...I will be re-posting my pieces for the next little while.. Alhamdulillah the readers are increasing bidhni'Allah and I would love for everyone to benefit from some of the previous blog posts which I had written which have gotten the most "views" ... Also, I am just going on a short hiatus for awhile (again, I know heehee) before I start writing new material insha'Allah.

I pray that you are all well and in a good state of emaan....I am struggling to be better and I really ask all you dear sisters to keep me in your duaa's.....you are in mine as always my beloved believing sisters in Islam...

Enjoy the upcoming posts (even though they are re-posts) ... Insha'Allah you will benefit from them bidhni'Allah ... love you all for the sake of Allah and keep smiling! It's Sunnah (of course not to non-mahrams though!!!!!!) 
xo




I just wanted to post this IMPORTANT REMINDER. This is for all the ignorant sisters out there who think that posting photo's of themselves (on Facebook, Twitter, their blogs, Tumblr... ETC ..) is OK : 
(by the way, I am no longer accepting "HATE" mail. Comments have been disabled and different e-mail has been provided! FEAR ALLAH!) 

Veiled sisters uploading their pictures on the internet – Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee

by AbdurRahman.org
 Question:
A questioner from France says: As salaamu alaikum, jazakaAllahu khrain O Shaykh. What is your view concerning the woman who places her picture wearing niqab, even though her face is covered, on the internet forums and other places? Keeping in mind, this is a fitna for the young men. May Allah bless you.
Shaykh Haamid ibn Al Khamis Al Junaibee:
You know, I don’t know—Subana Allah—some of the women, what do they want from this? What do they want by uploading these pictures, even those who upload their pictures in which they are wearing niqab, or a woman with her face covered, what does she want from this?
This is not done by someone with insight and wisdom and this is evidence of an ignorant way of thinking. What benefit is gained by uploading a picture of a woman wearing niqab, for example? And the evil is greater if she uploads a picture of herself. It is as though she is saying to them: “Look at me,” whether she is wearing niqab or not; along with the beautification or the eyes and other than that.
I say: My general advice to the women: Fear Allah O women, those who enter the internet forums and internet websites, and the social networking sites such as twitter and the other websites. Fear Allah. Whether addressing the men, or chatting with the men, uploading pictures, and going to great lengths in this matter. This is a great door to evil, the magnitude of it is only known to Allah.
And Allah knows the situation of these affairs based on these forums and websites, from the abundance of evil that occurs from some of the people due to these affairs; whether it is by the private messages, or by connecting through other means, or by sending emails, or other than that from the means that some men use to catch women.
And sometimes it occurs between a man who is religiously committed and a woman who is religiously committed. Fear Allah O daughters of the Muslims!!
By Allah, surely I know specific people, I know specific people, and I do not say this from the standpoint of mentioning stories and tales, but rather from the standpoint of inciting fear and alarm, this is the standpoint I am coming from. A woman and a man fell into fornication. Both of them were students of knowledge, both of them were students of knowledge. I know them specifically. We ask Allah for safety and security.
Thus beware, beware—may Allah bless you—beware beware! The person must stay far away from the doors of evil and he must make an escape from them; fleeing.
Whoever needs to connect with someone, whether it is for marriage, or engagement, the connection should occur from the females, from your family, your relatives, from this method. And do not open this door upon yourself! Because this door is a door of evil, such that if it is open it is not about to close except with great evil. We seek refuge in Allah. We ask Allah for safety and security.
Translated by Rasheed ibn Estes Barbee
Translator’s note: The Shaykh has written tazkiyah from Shaykh Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahab Al Aqeel
To Proceed,
You may think that there is nothing wrong with your innocent intentions, but please remember Allah is ALL- KNOWING, ALL-SEEING, ALL-HEARING. He KNOWS BETTER THAN YOU DO..and if you choose to follow your vain desires over His commands of "BEING MODEST" then do as you wish if you have NO SHAME. 

For those with husbands, or fiances (WHO ARE NON-MAHRAM BTW) does he not care that his wife/fiance is being showcased online in an open sea of predators who could easily creep and land on your page? Does your husbands not have any grain of jealousy or modesty himself? Let us REFLECT. Would you like your husband doing the same? "I trust him..." Yeah, but do you trust Shaitan and other sisters who don't fear Allah? Let's be real here. Please STOP making excuses for yourselves and use your common sense and remember this verse from the Qur'an : 

“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear therof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons or their sisters' sons, or their women or the servants whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex, and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers, turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss.” (Quran 24:31)

Do not cry and complain if hardship or punishment befalls you because you chose to disregard Allah's commands and your obligation as a modest Muslimah. His signs are so clear, yet I still don't understand why it is that women still need to share their pictures of themselves online. The naive thinking of "well, I have only sisters on my Facebook, blog, Twitter .. etc" is absolutely a ignorant way of thinking, and it shows that you do not know your Lord well AT ALL. Fear Him, do more research on MODESTY in Islam and ask yourself it the mother of believers would really have photographs or sculptures made of themselves during their time (given that there was no picture making back then, due to it being HARAM- and it STILL IS, but use your common sense.) Allah could easily teach a good lesson to us and inflict HASAD (evil eye, envy) upon us (Audhubilah) just because we want to share photo's of ourselves to show-off to everyone, saying "look at me! I'm pregnant and you're not!" , " look at me ! I'm beautiful and you're not!", " look at me! I have more wealth than you!" , " look at me and my kids! they are cuter than yours and you don't have kids!!" ... SERIOUSLY sisters. think about it. Stop being selfish and think about Allah and your fellow sisters in Islam. Fear Him, and fear the evil eye, for it is as real as it gets.

Allah blessed us with a brain but why is that many of us are choosing our emotional desires over our rationality? What is the purpose of posing and posting photographs of ourselves on the internet?

a) for family to see? - Use Skype

b) for your DIY, journal blog? - I'm pretttttty sure you do NOT need to include photo's of yourselves. Seriously. If you are intelligent to make your own DIY things, you would be intelligent enough to figure out other ways to showcase your products without having to showcase your beauty.

c) for your "sisters only" Facebook , Twitter, Tumblr etc.? - Honestly??? Is your intentions really to be MODEST and please Allah when you post photo's of yourselves? Or is it to gain compliments and seek approval from other sisters and to even make some jealous? This is SHIRK BTW.  FEAR ALLAH. AND LEARN YOUR RELIGION. You complain about brothers messaging you or this and that.... WELL YOU ARE BEING A FITNAH FOR THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE???!!!! 

err...." I follow the Qur'an and Sunnah" - but do you really? 
Because the Qur'an and Sunnah ...NOWHERE IN IT does it state for women to a) adorn themselves for non-mahrams b) post their own photo's or showcase their beauties to the general public (ONLINE INCLUDED FYI)  c) make themselves a fitnah for brothers. d) (this one is real common too) posting photo's of yourself and your family, husband included. - Does it not phase you that some sisters, who are ignorant and do not fear Allah, will look at your husband and let Shaitan get in the way? What if a sister so badly desires a husband and a family and she sees your photos? It's like WHIPLASH in the face on an open wound. 
Stop being SELFISH and FEAR ALLAH. Why do you need to share photo's of you and your family? To say " ohh we are a big happy family, look at us everyone! I want to show mom and dad our happy family!" - Again, there is SKYPE, or PERSONAL e-mail. The entire online world does NOT need to see you and your family, and we are Muslims, not kafirs. We know the difference between protecting ourselves and our families. Right?

Listen sisters, I am saying this all out of love for the sake of Allah. This is not meant to be taken in a way that results in you saying: " YOU SHOULD FEAR ALLAH, YOU ARE A MEANIE !" ... because I know there will be some of you who will think this. But, I just want to remind you, because the next sister, and the sister after, who stumble upon your FB, Twitter, blog, tumblr etc. will NOT tell you. Take this as a favour upon yourself and put your desires and emotions aside for one second. Think about Jannah, think about Allah. Don't you want to see His Face ? I only want for you what I want for myself, and that can only be done if we have sisters who truly care for our Akhirah rather than for our dunya. We are all here to strive together, advise each other, and to pay heed to Allah's commands.
Remember we as believing sisters are here to enjoin the good and forbid the evil : 

“Whoever among you sees an evil action, let him change it with his hand [by taking action]; if he cannot, then with his tongue [by speaking out]; and if he cannot, then with his heart [by hating it and feeling that it is wrong] – and that is the weakest of faith” (Narrated by Muslim, 49) 


“You (true believers in Islamic Monotheism, and real followers of Prophet Muhammad صلى الله عليه وسلم and his Sunnah) are the best of peoples ever raised up for mankind; you enjoin Al-Ma‘roof (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam has ordained) and forbid Al‑Munkar (polytheism, disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden)”


We all need to really reflect and ask ourselves, " what is the purpose of me posting photos" because this is not a true Muslimah trait. If we say we love Allah and His Messenger (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam), then why do our actions contract our words? 
Think about it. 
We all want Jannah, but what are we doing to get there? Are we truly sacrificing our desires for Allah? Or are we making a 50-50 unacceptable compromise? 


Imaam-us-Sa'adee said: "Do not go out whilst you are beautified or perfumed, as the women of the Days of Ignorance used to do since they did not have any knowledge or religious characteristics." [Tafseer ibn Sa'adee, (6/107)]



(THIS INCLUDES IN PUBLIC AND THE ONLINE WORLD!!)

Imaam-ul-Albaanee said: "Tabarruj is when a woman exposes her adornment, body features and all that she is obligated to cover, which invites the desires of men." [Hijaab-ul-Mar'at-il-Muslimah, p. 54]


Remember, modesty is a branch of Imaan. If you have no modesty, no shame, then do as you wish. If you do not know the guidelines of modesty, I suggest that you please seek more knowledge. Reading the Qur'an, memorizing it, studying it.... does not mean A THING, if you can't even put one single verse into action. Let us try our best dear sisters, to fight our nafs, and delete those unecessary photo's of ourselves that the online world does NOT need to see... and don't delete it for you, for me, for anybody else..except to earn the Pleasure of Allah and HIM ALONE. 

The Prophet said, “It is not that, Being modest to Allah as one should be is that one should guard his head and what it contains, his belly and what it consists of and that he should continuously remember death and the decaying (of the bones),and whosoever desires the
Hereafter should abandon the adornment of the World and should prefer the Hereafter over the World. Whoever does this, he is modest to Allah as he should be."(Tirmidhi)


Yahya related to me from Malik from Salama ibn Safwan ibn Salama az-Zuraqi that Zayd ibn Talha ibn Rukana, who attributed it to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "The Messenger of Allah, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, 'Every deen has an innate character. The character of Islam is modesty.' "  (47.2.9 Malik Mutawwa)


May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen! 

Saturday, August 17, 2013

How to change the world?

when will all this turmoil stop?


Indeed, the penalty for those who wage war against Allah and His Messenger and strive upon earth [to cause] corruption is none but that they be killed or crucified or that their hands and feet be cut off from opposite sides or that they be exiled from the land. That is for them a disgrace in this world; and for them in the Hereafter is a great punishment,

( Al- Maidah 5:33 )



Assalamualaikum wa rahmatulahi wa barakatu, (this is a re-post, but perfect for the current situation happening in Egypt, please keep our brothers and sisters in Egypt and all across the world in our duaas....remember them and their situations and be thankful and grateful to Allah, the Almighty that we have comfortable beds to sleep on and masjids that we can actually attend without being bombarded by dirty kafirs and their mass weapons of destructions!)

The billion dollar question that we ask ourselves each and every day. How to change the world...
How do we change this sad, weak, dying world?

Lately all I have been seeing around the social networking scene are statuses about Egypt, heartbreaking photos of martyrs, and hash tags. This is not news to me nor is it news to you. Corruption in this chaotic world has been circulating like some kind of permanent recycling program. It seems to never end and somewhere in every part of the world you will find violence, oppression, and hatred. There is no denying that we all feel helpless when we see photo's of children as young as an infant being martyred and weeping mothers holding their martyred son to their chest. We all feel sad because we can't do anything so we spread the word and re-tweet, re-share, and re-post anything that we think will let the world know how we feel. This is the least that we can do. We tell our Muslim sisters to make duaa for all our oppressed brothers and sisters and this is the only thing we think we can do. But is it? Can we do more than just tell the world to make duaa? Is it sufficient enough to just sit behind the computer screen and feel that pinch in our hearts when we see our own sisters in Islam dying for the sake of Allah? Is it sufficient enough for us to express our frustration and sadness through posts on Facebook and Twitter with caps locks and exclamation marks? Is it sufficient enough for us to blog about it?

Surely some sisters may say "yes, it is sufficient enough because we can't fly to Egypt, Syria, Palestine, Somali, Burma (and any other oppressed country) to fight." or "Yes it is sufficient enough because ( _insert excuse here_) but I disagree with those who think duaa is sufficient enough for our drying, oppressed, brothers and sisters in Islam. Of course duaa heals all wounds and cures all diseases and kills all oppression HOWEVER, I hadn't given it much thought until I remembered this verse from the Noble Qur'an :

"Verily, Allah will not change the condition of the people, until they change what's in themselves.” (Ar-Ra'd 13:11) 

What Mighty words our Creator sends forth to His creation. This verse deserves some serious attention (well, the Qur'an deserves serious attention in general ).

How many of us are living double lives as a Muslim? Where we submit to our desires one day, and then when we hear about some tyrant oppressing the world, we turn into that devoted Muslim seeking duaa from Allah before seeking Forgiveness from Him? How can we expect Allah to answer our duaa's when we can't even do the bare minimum of fulfilling the 5 daily prayers, fasting, adopting modesty, and displaying good character? How do we expect Allah to answer our duaa's when we sit behind our computer, surfing on Facebook and stalking brother's pages , or worse, displaying our adornments loud and proud all over our photo albums online? How can we expect Allah to answer our duaa's when we can't even be kind to our neighbour and spread the PROPER GREETING of Salaams (see this post for more details).

Do you think Allah will answer our duaa's if we can't even put aside our pride and take in the positive criticism our dear sisters are giving us? Do you think Allah will answer our duaa's if we can't even make an effort to improve ourselves for His sake? Do you think Allah will answer our duaa's when we refuse to listen to other sisters correcting us for the sake of Allah and instead argue back with them? Do you think Allah will answer our duaa's when we continue to stay ignorant about so many things that are and aren't in the Qur'an and Sunnah (see post : What is Ignorance)?

We need to stop feeding our desires and start feeding our bank for the Akhirah.
We need to stop listening to music and flooding our minds with pollution and false emotions that make us turn away from Allah. We need to open our minds a little bit wider and absorb more of the Qur'an and the Sunnah! We need to stop fantasizing about the next vacation hot spot or the next Gucci purse we are going to buy! We need to start raising our kids the proper way and teach them at a young age how to be righteous and obedient to Allah the Almighty! We need to start wearing the HIJAB PROPERLY and STOP TALKING TO NON-MAHRAMS! We need to STOP being stubborn and RUDE to other sisters who are trying to help us make it to JANNAH!  What kind of attitude is this? Who do we think we are? We need to stop saying " leave me alone " when someone is trying to forbid an evil action of ours and trying to encourage us to do good because

Prophet – salla Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said:
“Verily the most detested speech to Allaah, the Mighty and Majestic, is that a man says to another man ‘fear Allaah,’ so the (other) man says: ‘Leave me alone!‘”
[In another narration, he says: "Worry about your own self." Al-Albaanee authenticated it in Silsilatul-Ahaadeethis-Saheehah (2598).]


Please remember, our duaa's are answered once we start being obedient to Allah the Almighty. As He mentions several times in the Qur'an about the importance and about those who forbid the evil actions and enjoin the good deeds and good actions for His sake and His alone:

"... of people inviting to all that is good (Islam), enjoining Al-Ma'ruf (i.e. Islamic Monotheism and all that Islam orders one to do) and forbidding Al-Munkar (polytheism and disbelief and all that Islam has forbidden). And it is they who are the successful" (Al-Imran 3:104)

THIS IS OUR DUTY AS A BELIEVING SLAVE: 
Abu Sa"id al-Khudri, may Allah be pleased with him, reported that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) had said:


"Whoever amongst you sees anything objectionable, let him change it with his hand, if he is not able, then with his tongue, and if he is not even able to do so, then with his heart, and the latter is the weakest form of faith." (Muslim)

How can we expect any changes in this world when we can't even change ourselves? How can we expect the world to change when we can't even drop our desires for ONE MINUTE? What good will listening to music or watching haram movies do for the world? What good will it do when we dress immodestly and argue with others that hijab is not obligatory? What good will it do when we can't even carry good etiquette and manners? What good will it do when you are in a HARAM relationship, go clubbing and do drugs ? What good will fearing the people do? Why is it that more and more people are fearing the creation rather than the CREATOR??????!!!! Will THIS CHANGE THE WORLD?! 

What happened to trustworthy people ? Truthful people? Why is it so hard for us to speak the truth and accept it and apply it to our Ummah?! If we can't even be truthful to ourselves how will we be truthful to others? Better yet, how can we be truthful and honest to ALLAH SUBHANAHU WA TA'ALA?! OUR ONE TRUE CREATOR? He created US and destroying US is SO easy for Him, yet He preserves US , giving us chance after chance to change ourselves so that we can help change the Ummah.

But what exactly are we doing with the chances that Allah keeps giving us? Are we using it to our advantage or are we using it against ourselves? We keep crying and complaining about the world yet we still sit behind our computer showing off our beauty to half the world to see. We keep spreading the tweets on Twitter yet we still can't follow the simple Sunnah of abandoning non-mahram relationships! We expect the world to change but WHAT ARE WE DOING TO CHANGE OURSELVES?
Goodness will not spread from disobedience to Allah. Goodness will not spread from following our carnal desires. Goodness will not spread when our ignorance, arrogance, and pride stops us from being humble and modest to Allah and to the creation. Goodness WILL NOT spread if we are constantly falling into SIN upon SIN without seeking FORGIVENESS from ALLAH.

So, how can we change the world?

Fall in prostration and ask ALLAH for Forgiveness and repent. From the smallest of sins to the biggest of sins, Allah the ALL MERCIFUL is waiting for us to change our ways before He changes the world.

We need to constantly remind ourselves that :


"The Initiator of the heavens and

 the earth: to have anything done, He simply says to it, "Be,"

 and it is" (Al Baqarah 2:117)

So for Allah to restore the peace within the Ummah, it is nothing hard for Him to do. He could do it faster than the speed of light, after all He created the world, so He does as He pleases with it.

The thing we need to realise is, that He will not change anything until we make that effort to change ourselves. 

Remember :
On the authority of Abu Hurairah, who said : the messenger of Allah said :

"Allah the Almighty is good and accepts only that which is good. Allah has commanded the faithful to do that which he commanded the messengers, and the Almighty has said: "O ye messengers ! Eat of the good things and do right". And Allah the Almighty has said : "O ye who believe! Eat of the good things wherewith We have provided you"
Then he mentioned [the case of] a man who, having journeyed far, is dishevelled and dusty and who spreads out his hands to the sky [saying] : "O Lord! O Lord!" - while his food is unlawful, his drink unlawful, his clothing unlawful, and he is nourished unlawfully, so how can he be answered !" (Muslim)


May this be a good reminder for you, as it is definitely a good reminder for myself. May Allah open our hearts and help us change our ways to be a better servant to Him, so that we can work together as one BODY to change the world together and revive the Sunnah, a day at a time. AMEEN ! 

May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from shaitan the accursed. Ameen! 

Monday, August 12, 2013

Queens of Islam...are you one of them?



Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu !

This is a beautiful and very motivating 'lecture' for my sisters in Islam who struggle like I do on a daily basis to try to please her Lord. Please take the time and watch it and insha'Allah it will help motivate you to strive harder and be more patient with the many challenges we all face in the West (and everywhere else around the world) ! Allah is with His believing slaves ! Never forget that!!
To my believing sisters all over the world who strive and struggle each and every day, you are not alone and remember that Allah is All Knowing, All Hearing, All Seeing ...He knows the challenges and struggles that we face and He will Reward us accordingly ! May we all meet in Al-Firdaus and may we all be granted with His Shade on Yaum al-Qiyyamah !! AMEEN!!!
I love you all for the sake of Allah my dear beloved believing sisters!!! WE ARE ONE UMMAH! May we all unite upon TAWHEED & HAQQ. AMEEN

Sunday, August 11, 2013

Eid Mubarak!

taken from www.nostalgicabstract.tumblr.com

Assalamualaikum wa Rahmatulahi wa Barakatu,


Eid Mubaarak

Taqabbalallâhu minnâ wa minkum,

- May Allâh ‘Azza Wa Jal accept (the good deeds) from us and you


My apologies for the late one! Please don't forget to continue your Ramadaan spirit and fast the 6 days of Shawwal!!!!!!!! Read more about it's virtues insha'Allah! May Allah accept all of our good deeds and continue to keep us strong and consistent throughout the year! May we see another Ramadaan and many more to come AMEEN!

SIX DAYS OF SHAWWAL:

Fasting Six days of the month of Shawwal


Abu Ayyoub reported that the Messenger of Allah, salla Allahu alaihi wa sallam said “Whoever fasts the month of Ramadhan and then follows it by fasting six days during the month of Shawwal will be rewarded as if he had fasted the entire year. [Muslim, at-Tirmithi, Ibn Majah, Abu Dawood and Ahmad by way of Jabir].
These days can be anytime during the month of Shawwal except the first day because it is unlawful to fast the day of Eid. These days do not have to be at beginning of the month nor do they have to be consecutive. Hence, Muslims should seize this opportunity and fast these six days to get Allah’s reward.
Why the fasting of six days of Shawal after Ramadhan equates that of the whole year? Some `Ulamaa’ say that the good deed is rewarded ten times. Thus fasting six days is like fasting 60 days, added to 30 days of Ramadhan times 10 (i.e. 300) it makes it a year.
Fasting voluntary fasts whilst having days (outstanding) from Ramadhaan
Question: What is the ruling regarding the one who has days of fasting remaining from the month of Ramadhaan yet wishes to fast voluntary fasts or fast the day of ‘Aashooraa. (tenth day of Muharram)? For example, he wants to fast both the tenth and eleventh days with the intention of making up (the missed fasts of Ramadhaan) and not the fast of the day of ‘Aashooraa. Also, is it permissible for one to fast the day of ‘Aashooraa., even if he has fasts to make up from the month of Ramadhaan? And is it permissible for one who has days to make up from Ramadhaan to fast the Day of ‘Aashooraa. and the day before it or the day after it, with the intention of making up (what he has missed)?
Response: He should not do the voluntary fast whilst he has a day or days to make up from Ramadhaan. Rather, he should begin by making up that which he has (outstanding) from Ramadhaan, then do the voluntary fast. Secondly, if he fasted the tenth and eleventh days of the month of Muharram with the intention of making up that which he has (outstanding) from the days he did not fast in the month of Ramadhaan, then that is permissible and sufficient in making up two days from that which he has outstanding; For that which the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
«The reward of deeds depends upon the intentions and every person will get the reward according to what he has intended,…».
And with Allaah lies all the success, and may Allaah send prayers and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) and his family and his companions.
The Permanent Committee for Islaamic Research and Verdicts
Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa.imah lil-Buhooth al-’Ilmiyyah wal-Iftaa. – Volume 10, Page 401, Fatwa No.6774
Should fasting the six days of Shawwaal be done immediately after the day of ‘eed?
Question: Is the fasting of the six days (of Shawwaal) a must after the month of Ramadhaan immediately after the day of ‘eed, or is it permissible (to do so) after ‘eed by (a number of) days in the month of Shawwaal or not?
Response: It is not a must for him to fast immediately after ‘eed al-fitr, rather it is permissible to begin fasting after ‘eed by a day or (a number of) days. And (also) to fast them continuously or intermittently in the month of Shawwaal according to that which is easy for him. And the issue is quite open in this matter, and it is not obligatory, rather it is a sunnah.
And with Allaah lies all the success, and may Allaah send prayers and salutations upon our Prophet Muhammad (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) and his family and his companions.
The Permanent Committee for Islaamic Research and Verdicts, comprising -
Fataawa Ramadhaan – Volume 2, Page 693, Fatwa No.698;
Fataawa al-Lajnah ad-Daa.imah lil-Buhooth al-’Ilmiyyah wal-Iftaa. – Fatwa No. 3475
Unable to complete fasting the six days of Shawwaal, is there any sin for this?
Question: I began fasting the six (days) of Shawwaal, however I was unable to complete them because of extenuating circumstances and work. Now I have two days remaining, so what do I do O Eminence (Shaykh), do I make these days up or is there any sin upon me?
Response: Fasting the six (days) of Shawwaal is a recommended act of worship and not an obligation. So for you is the reward of that which you fasted of them, and it is hoped for you the complete reward if that which prevented you from fasting them all was an Islaamically acceptable reason. The Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:
«If the servant becomes ill or is travelling then Allaah writes for him that which he used to do when he was in good health and back at home (i.e. not travelling»), narrated by al-Bukhaaree
And there is nothing for you to make up for that which you left of them.
And with Allaah lies all success.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz
Fataawa Ramadhaan – Volume 2, Page 694, Fatwa No. 699;
al-Fataawa libni Baaz – Kitaab ad-Da’wah, Volume 2, Page 172

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

NON-MAHRAM GALORE !!!??! OH ME ! OH MY!??



Sooner or later I would have been addressing this KILLER issue and well, that time has come Insha'Allah. (please note, this is indeed a RE-POST

I wanted to dedicate a post to the sisters (married or not) who think that mixing with NON-MAHRAMS is allowed in Islam.

“… and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons…” [al-Noor 24:31]

Uqba b. Amir reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: “Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion).” A person from the Ansar said: “Allah’s Messenger, what about the husband’s brother?” Whereupon he said: “The husband’s brother is like death.” [Muslim 26/5400] 

ANYONE ELSE IS NON-MAHRAM. Did you know? 
Brother in-law is NON-mahram , nor cousins, or fiance's (many people get it confused, but until you are physically married or at least have signed the papers in the Masjid with your witnesses, he is still non-mahram) ! are we clear!?

Ok, to proceed..

If I asked you today, how many NON-MAHRAMS are on your Facebook, & Twitter account what would you answer? " Oh, maybe just 2 or 3, but I don't talk to them anyway" or " Well, I have them on my list because I want them to benefit from my Islamic posts that I share" or " I have a few, because they help me with school work"... AND the list of excuses go on.

If I asked you today, how many NON-MAHRAM friends you 'hang out' with, what would your answer be? " I have a few NON-MAHRAMS I hang out with at school, it's in public anyway so what's the problem?" or " Well, my husband's friend comes over with his wife and we sit together, what's the harm in that?" and of course " It's in my culture to mix with my cousins."

Let us study these HARAM situations which many Muslims have made halal on their very own accord. Subhana'Allah.

Having NON-MAHRAM brothers on your Facebook, Twitter and any other social networking site, is not permissible. This is not a fatwa I have issued by myself ASTUGHFURALLAH, but it is what Allah has ordained for us. Many brothers and sisters these days seem to be making up their own Shari'ah and making excuses for themselves that it is permissible for them to talk to strangers. Many believe that they know what their own intentions are and that they are "strong" enough to resist temptation. I'm sorry, but I really need to L O L at this, because it is absolutely ludicrous in  every shape, size, and form. Since I am a stickler (as best as I can) to always provide proper daleel (proof) from reliable scholars (who are NOT the modern day WESTERN DAEE'S that we all blindly follow thinking they are 'scholars' or 'sheikhs') to back up my points, I have dedicated MORE than enough proofs below: Please take a quick moment to read, absorb, and reflect!

"The look is a poisonous arrow that returns to the heart of the onlooker, striking it and affecting it, or killing it and causing it to die. So none of them should look at what Allah has forbidden. The creation of this look and this eyesight is a blessing, which humans must use for only that which Allah has permitted. He must use them for only those things that Allah has allowed and refrain from using them for those things that Allah has forbidden. Allah says about men: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze." (An-Nur:30) And He says about women : "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze." (An-Nur:31)  (Sheikh Fawzan pg.7 Advice to the Muslim Woman"



Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between young men and women, if this correspondence is free from immorality and love? 
He replied: 
It is not permissible for any man to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the fitnah (temptation) involved in that. A person may think that there is no fitnah, but the Shaytaan will keep trying until he tempts him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded those who heard of the Dajjaal to keep away from him, and said that a man may approach him as a believer, but the Dajjaal will keep trying until he leads him astray. 
Correspondence between young men and women involves a great deal of fitnah and danger, so we must avoid it, even though the questioner says that this correspondence is free from immorality and love. 
[Fataawa al-Mar’ah, compiled by Muhammad al-Musnad, p. 96.] 


“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”
[Surah al-Ahzaab chapter 33 verse 32] 
If this applies to the MOTHER OF BELIEVERS, our righteous modest role models than what about us?!


Jarir b. 'Abdullah reported: I asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.(SAHIH MUSLIM) Book 025, Number 5372

“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al-Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]. And had it not been for the Grace of Allaah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allaah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allaah is All-Hearer, All-Knower”
[al-Noor 24:21] 

“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty...” [24:31]


Question to Shaikh Albani:
Is it permissible for a husband to sit with his friends in the company of his wife? And what are the conditions of that?
Shaikh Al-Albani:
Firstly, Islam does not approve of this kind of gathering because it’s a type of mixing. Secondly, if it is necessary the conditions – of course – are known, but observing them is difficult. So from the conditions is what we mentioned previously:
1. Each one should be covered with the proper Islamic veil, meaning; that she should not be wearing shiny and beautiful clothes which attract attention, as is the case with women in their homes. Also these garments should not be tight or short for example, where it defines the legs or thighs or similar to that.
What’s important is that their clothing contains the conditions of the veil which I mentioned in the introduction to my book: (The veil of the Muslim woman).
2. Add to that – that the conversation in these sittings should contain in it modesty and good manners and dignity so as not to prompt any of those present from the men or women to smile or laugh or giggle.
So if the conversation has these conditions and is found to be necessary, then the sitting is permissible, but I believe that fulfilling these conditions especially in our time is almost impossible.
Sadly, most Muslims today don’t know the Islamic rulings (what is permissible) and (what is not permissible), and those from them who have knowledge of these rulings, very few of them follow and apply these rulings.
So for that I don’t imagine a gathering between relatives which would contain all of these condition, this is something purely imaginary. And for that the matter is as the Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said: (…”And between them are unclear matter which many people have no knowledge of, so whoever guards against the unclear matters he will protect his religion and his honor, verily every King has his prohibited land and verily, the prohibited land of Allah is that which he has forbidden.
Verily whoever grazes his Flock around a Sanctuary, he will soon fall in it”). And from this hadith; some people of old times have taken a slang saying: (Distance yourself from evil and sing for it.) This is a slang proverb […] and the second saying: (The one who doesn’t want to see ruined dreams should not sleep between the graves). Like this. (Tape 4 of Silsilat al Huda wan Noor tape) via Aboo Okasha al Maldivee)

As you all can see from the many verses mentioned, even an accidental sudden glance with a NON-MAHRAM can be a GRAND OPENING for dirty Shaitan. Along with modesty, (which I guess you can very well add this into the category) this has become a problem in today's Ummah ! Many Muslimah's have incorporated the Western culture with Islam. Just like FASHION and ISLAM, OIL & WATER, the two DO NOT MIX!

Many people here in the West, (and I am pretty sure there are more scattered around the world astughfurAllah, May Allah guide us all) feel that it is absolutely OK to have gatherings for 4, 6, 8, & 10. What is the purpose of eating dinner with your sister(friend) and her husband? Though we may not think anything of it, we do not know what Shaitan has planned up his dirty sleeve. If one fears Allah, he would not let his wife sit with her sister's husband. It just doesn't make any sense, and to be perfectly honest, a real (ALLAH FEARING) man would not let his wife near any NON-MAHRAM. I read somewhere, that a woman had thought her friend's husband was so handsome and that resulted in her treating her OWN husband in a bad manner because she was thinking about her friend's husband(ASTUGHFURALLAH, AUDHUBILAH)! This sister probably did not know that this would happen, but look! What a GREAT EXAMPLE. When you disregard Allah and His commands, the Shaitan calls his crew and says "lets GO"! Nothing makes Shaitan happier than breaking up a marriage. May Allah protect us from disobedience against Him, AMEEN. I am sure there are plenty more scenarios, but I do not need to delve into them as this example is great enough.


As well, many times we may think we are doing good by following brothers on Facebook or Twitter to seek more knowledge from them, but this is WRONG and can open up many doors for shaitan. I personally know that it has happened to a few sisters already!
"Well there are not many sisters who have knowledgeable things to share" WRONG! If we stop following the hijabi bloggers  and explore the plethora of Muslimah's who have websites full of wonderful Islamic knowledge then we will not need to add these brothers on our Facebook & Twitter correct? The brothers should keep their Facebook STRICTLY for other brothers and us sisters need to keep our Facebook STRICTLY for sisters ONLY!!!!!!!!!

What is the point of having NON-MAHRAMS in our social network? Then we complain that we got into a haram relationship and cry our eyes out over a broken heart when this all could have been avoided in the first place. Close ALL cracks, windows, doors, and traps for Shaitan because he is on the prowl 24/7, 7 days a week, 365 a year. Fear Allah. Fear Allah. Fear Allah. Disobeying Allah is already a big enough sin, but when we think that we can handle every situation on our own, then there is something wrong with our iman & we need to check ourselves!


Could you imagine if your parents found out you were talking to a million NON-MAHRAMS (hee hee and ha-ha'ing away with them?) What would they do? If you fear your parents finding out, then what about ALLAH? He is WATCHING you at ALL TIMES. Is submitting to our desires THAT important that we can't submit to Allah? This is not a million dollar question. It is a simple YES or NO answer. The sad thing is, we all know the answer, yet we still go against Allah.

What has Allah ever done to you that makes you become so disobedient to Him?

I pray that we all gang up on Shaitan and follow Allah and the Prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) instead of submitting to our desires which, in the end, will not save us from the punishment of the grave, nor the punishment of the Hellfire...The days are getting shorter, and the time is going by faster...and we all know what that means. To Allah we belong and to Him we will return.


May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen!