Friday, December 7, 2012


Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatulahi Wa Barakatu,

Sooner or later I would have been addressing this KILLER issue and well, that time has come Insha'Allah.

I wanted to dedicate a post to the sisters (married or not) who think that mixing with NON-MAHRAMS is allowed in Islam.

“… and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons…” [al-Noor 24:31]

Uqba b. Amir reported Allah’s Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: “Beware of getting, into the houses and meeting women (in seclusion).” A person from the Ansar said: “Allah’s Messenger, what about the husband’s brother?” Whereupon he said: “The husband’s brother is like death.” [Muslim 26/5400] 

Brother in-law is NON-mahram , nor cousins, or fiance's (many people get it confused, but until you are physically married or at least have signed the papers in the Masjid with your witnesses, he is still non-mahram) ! are we clear!?

Ok, to proceed..

If I asked you today, how many NON-MAHRAMS are on your Facebook, & Twitter account what would you answer? " Oh, maybe just 2 or 3, but I don't talk to them anyway" or " Well, I have them on my list because I want them to benefit from my Islamic posts that I share" or " I have a few, because they help me with school work"... AND the list of excuses go on.

If I asked you today, how many NON-MAHRAM friends you 'hang out' with, what would your answer be? " I have a few NON-MAHRAMS I hang out with at school, it's in public anyway so what's the problem?" or " Well, my husband's friend comes over with his wife and we sit together, what's the harm in that?" and of course " It's in my culture to mix with my cousins."

Let us study these HARAM situations which many Muslims have made halal on their very own accord. Subhana'Allah.

Having NON-MAHRAM brothers on your Facebook, Twitter and any other social networking site, is not permissible. This is not a fatwa I have issued by myself ASTUGHFURALLAH, but it is what Allah has ordained for us. Many brothers and sisters these days seem to be making up their own Shari'ah and making excuses for themselves that it is permissible for them to talk to strangers. Many believe that they know what their own intentions are and that they are "strong" enough to resist temptation. I'm sorry, but I really need to L O L at this, because it is absolutely ludicrous in  every shape, size, and form. Since I am a stickler (as best as I can) to always provide proper daleel (proof) from reliable scholars (who are NOT the modern day WESTERN DAEE'S that we all blindly follow thinking they are 'scholars' or 'sheikhs') to back up my points, I have dedicated MORE than enough proofs below: Please take a quick moment to read, absorb, and reflect!

"The look is a poisonous arrow that returns to the heart of the onlooker, striking it and affecting it, or killing it and causing it to die. So none of them should look at what Allah has forbidden. The creation of this look and this eyesight is a blessing, which humans must use for only that which Allah has permitted. He must use them for only those things that Allah has allowed and refrain from using them for those things that Allah has forbidden. Allah says about men: "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze." (An-Nur:30) And He says about women : "And tell the believing women to lower their gaze." (An-Nur:31)  (Sheikh Fawzan pg.7 Advice to the Muslim Woman"

Shaykh Ibn Jibreen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is the ruling on correspondence between young men and women, if this correspondence is free from immorality and love? 
He replied: 
It is not permissible for any man to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the fitnah (temptation) involved in that. A person may think that there is no fitnah, but the Shaytaan will keep trying until he tempts him. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) commanded those who heard of the Dajjaal to keep away from him, and said that a man may approach him as a believer, but the Dajjaal will keep trying until he leads him astray. 
Correspondence between young men and women involves a great deal of fitnah and danger, so we must avoid it, even though the questioner says that this correspondence is free from immorality and love. 
[Fataawa al-Mar’ah, compiled by Muhammad al-Musnad, p. 96.] 

“O wives of the Prophet! You are not like any other women. If you keep your duty (to Allaah), then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy, or evil desire for adultery) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner”
[Surah al-Ahzaab chapter 33 verse 32] 
If this applies to the MOTHER OF BELIEVERS, our righteous modest role models than what about us?!

Jarir b. 'Abdullah reported: I asked Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) about the sudden glance (that is cast) on the face (of a non-Mahram). He commanded me that I should turn away my eyes.(SAHIH MUSLIM) Book 025, Number 5372

“O you who believe! Follow not the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan). And whosoever follows the footsteps of Shaytaan (Satan), then, verily, he commands Al-Fahsha’ [i.e. to commit indecency (illegal sexual intercourse)], and Al-Munkar [disbelief and polytheism (i.e. to do evil and wicked deeds; and to speak or to do what is forbidden in Islam)]. And had it not been for the Grace of Allaah and His Mercy on you, not one of you would ever have been pure from sins. But Allaah purifies (guides to Islam) whom He wills, and Allaah is All-Hearer, All-Knower”
[al-Noor 24:21] 

“And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty...” [24:31]

Question to Shaikh Albani:
Is it permissible for a husband to sit with his friends in the company of his wife? And what are the conditions of that?
Shaikh Al-Albani:
Firstly, Islam does not approve of this kind of gathering because it’s a type of mixing. Secondly, if it is necessary the conditions – of course – are known, but observing them is difficult. So from the conditions is what we mentioned previously:
1. Each one should be covered with the proper Islamic veil, meaning; that she should not be wearing shiny and beautiful clothes which attract attention, as is the case with women in their homes. Also these garments should not be tight or short for example, where it defines the legs or thighs or similar to that.
What’s important is that their clothing contains the conditions of the veil which I mentioned in the introduction to my book: (The veil of the Muslim woman).
2. Add to that – that the conversation in these sittings should contain in it modesty and good manners and dignity so as not to prompt any of those present from the men or women to smile or laugh or giggle.
So if the conversation has these conditions and is found to be necessary, then the sitting is permissible, but I believe that fulfilling these conditions especially in our time is almost impossible.
Sadly, most Muslims today don’t know the Islamic rulings (what is permissible) and (what is not permissible), and those from them who have knowledge of these rulings, very few of them follow and apply these rulings.
So for that I don’t imagine a gathering between relatives which would contain all of these condition, this is something purely imaginary. And for that the matter is as the Prophet (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has said: (…”And between them are unclear matter which many people have no knowledge of, so whoever guards against the unclear matters he will protect his religion and his honor, verily every King has his prohibited land and verily, the prohibited land of Allah is that which he has forbidden.
Verily whoever grazes his Flock around a Sanctuary, he will soon fall in it”). And from this hadith; some people of old times have taken a slang saying: (Distance yourself from evil and sing for it.) This is a slang proverb […] and the second saying: (The one who doesn’t want to see ruined dreams should not sleep between the graves). Like this. (Tape 4 of Silsilat al Huda wan Noor tape) via Aboo Okasha al Maldivee)

As you all can see from the many verses mentioned, even an accidental sudden glance with a NON-MAHRAM can be a GRAND OPENING for dirty Shaitan. Along with modesty, (which I guess you can very well add this into the category) this has become a problem in today's Ummah ! Many Muslimah's have incorporated the Western culture with Islam. Just like FASHION and ISLAM, OIL & WATER, the two DO NOT MIX!

Many people here in the West, (and I am pretty sure there are more scattered around the world astughfurAllah, May Allah guide us all) feel that it is absolutely OK to have gatherings for 4, 6, 8, & 10. What is the purpose of eating dinner with your sister(friend) and her husband? Though we may not think anything of it, we do not know what Shaitan has planned up his dirty sleeve. If one fears Allah, he would not let his wife sit with her sister's husband. It just doesn't make any sense, and to be perfectly honest, a real (ALLAH FEARING) man would not let his wife near any NON-MAHRAM. I read somewhere, that a woman had thought her friend's husband was so handsome and that resulted in her treating her OWN husband in a bad manner because she was thinking about her friend's husband(ASTUGHFURALLAH, AUDHUBILAH)! This sister probably did not know that this would happen, but look! What a GREAT EXAMPLE. When you disregard Allah and His commands, the Shaitan calls his crew and says "lets GO"! Nothing makes Shaitan happier than breaking up a marriage. May Allah protect us from disobedience against Him, AMEEN. I am sure there are plenty more scenarios, but I do not need to delve into them as this example is great enough.

As well, many times we may think we are doing good by following brothers on Facebook or Twitter to seek more knowledge from them, but this is WRONG and can open up many doors for shaitan. I personally know that it has happened to a few sisters already!
"Well there are not many sisters who have knowledgeable things to share" WRONG! If we stop following the hijabi bloggers  and explore the plethora of Muslimah's who have websites full of wonderful Islamic knowledge then we will not need to add these brothers on our Facebook & Twitter correct? The brothers should keep their Facebook STRICTLY for other brothers and us sisters need to keep our Facebook STRICTLY for sisters ONLY!!!!!!!!!

What is the point of having NON-MAHRAMS in our social network? Then we complain that we got into a haram relationship and cry our eyes out over a broken heart when this all could have been avoided in the first place. Close ALL cracks, windows, doors, and traps for Shaitan because he is on the prowl 24/7, 7 days a week, 365 a year. Fear Allah. Fear Allah. Fear Allah. Disobeying Allah is already a big enough sin, but when we think that we can handle every situation on our own, then there is something wrong with our iman & we need to check ourselves!

Could you imagine if your parents found out you were talking to a million NON-MAHRAMS (hee hee and ha-ha'ing away with them?) What would they do? If you fear your parents finding out, then what about ALLAH? He is WATCHING you at ALL TIMES. Is submitting to our desires THAT important that we can't submit to Allah? This is not a million dollar question. It is a simple YES or NO answer. The sad thing is, we all know the answer, yet we still go against Allah.

What has Allah ever done to you that makes you become so disobedient to Him?

I pray that we all gang up on Shaitan and follow Allah and the Prophet (sallalahu aleyhi wasselam) instead of submitting to our desires which, in the end, will not save us from the punishment of the grave, nor the punishment of the Hellfire...The days are getting shorter, and the time is going by faster...and we all know what that means. To Allah we belong and to Him we will return.

May Allah forgive me for anything that I've said that has offended you, anything good I've said is from Allah and anything bad is from my own self and I seek refuge in Allah from Shaitan the accursed. Ameen! 


  1. Masha Allah! this blog post is just so amazing sis! our sisters in Islam must know the gravity of talking to their non Mahrams, may Allah bless for this sis! hope everyone can learn from this post In sha Allah!...<3!

  2. jazAllah sis ! learned a lot from this!! could u pls name some modern day da'es so we all can be careful?

  3. jazaAllah khair sis!! could u pls mention some modern da'es that we should be careful of??

  4. Jazakallahu Khaira sis! Very beneficial,may Allah guide us all to the striaght path and forgive our sins. May Allah make us among His obedient servents. May Allah grand us Jannat ul Firdous. Aameen

  5. Got some problem here :(
    iny country, Malaysia, we have to gather together during celebrations such as eid-ul-fitri and weddings, as you said cousins are non-mahram, means that husband's cousins are non mahram for us too right? but the culture here, family is veru important, and most of us doesn't close our aurah properly in front of cousins, or husband's family, could you explain and give your opinion bout this :(
    i'm still confuse about mahram or muhrim and how is our aurah..

  6. Allahu Akber Kabeera. Jazakillahu Khayran Kaseera for this post. Just came across your blog while searching for a good read to boost my imaan and amaal inshaAllah. This is definitely something we struggle with in our daily lives. May Allah swt completely free us of this ghaflah and increase our amaal for His Sake inshaAllah. Remember in your duas.

  7. Salam!

    What if I work at a place that deals with talking to a lot of non-mahram men? :(


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