Thursday, January 8, 2015

A message to Adam Saleh fans



“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) and not to reveal their adornment except to their husbands, or their fathers, or their husband’s fathers, or their sons, or their husband’s sons, or their brothers or their brother’s sons, or their sister’s sons, or their (Muslim) women (i.e. their sisters in Islam), or the (female) slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants who lack vigour, or small children who have no sense of feminine sex. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And all of you beg Allaah to forgive you all, O believers, that you may be successful”


[al-Noor 24:31] 

As I browse some of my social media accounts, I can't help but notice the hot topic that keeps circulating around which has caught a lot of (unnecessary) attention...and that is "Adam Saleh" "3MH" and any other group this young man is in. In order to write about this, I had to familiarize myself with this individual. I watched a few of his youtube videos to try to better understand what all this Adam "hype" is all about. What really stuck out to me the most was the amazing amount of female Muslim followers whom all seem to be in their early to late teens. I noticed that a lot of  these young Muslimahs were very excited and shamelessly professing their admiration for Adam and his friends. Now, I am not here to lecture anyone about what is halal and haram because that is not the purpose of this post because we already know that it is impermissible in Islam to touch/talk/flirt with a non-mahram (male or woman not permissible for us unless marriage occurs) whether it is shaking hands, hugging, kissing on the cheek and/or any other type of physical and verbal contact. 

It was narrated that Ma’qil ibn Yassaar said: the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “For one of you to be stabbed in the head with an iron needle is better for him than that he should touch a woman who is not permissible for him.” 

(Narrated by al-Tabaraani in al-Kabeer, 486. Shaykh al-Albaani said in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 5045, that this hadeeth is saheeh. )

‘Aa’ishah said: Whoever among the believing women agreed to that had passed the test, and when the women agreed to that, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said to them: “Go, for you have given your oath of allegiance.’ No, by Allaah, the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman, rather they would give their oath of allegiance with words only.” And ‘Aa’ishah said: “By Allaah, the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) only took the oath of allegiance from the women in the manner prescribed by Allaah, and the hand of the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never touched the hand of any woman. When he had taken their oath of allegiance he would say, ‘I have accepted your oath of allegiance verbally.’”
(narrated by Muslim, 1866) 

But I wanted to remind us all about the true gift of Islam. The beautiful thing about Islam is that Allah has placed the believing Muslim woman on a pedestal and He has given her honour, dignity, and protection above other women. We can not deny that Islam has given us rights which most women in today's society do not have. We are considered as princesses and queens even without having to earn the title because of lineage. We are royalty because Allah has made us that way and He has blessed us with the beautiful gift of modesty and shyness. We are protected pearls preserved in our shells for Allah and the special mate that Allah has chosen for us! Allahu Akbar! How beautiful!! I never realised the true worth of a woman until I reverted to Islam. Subhana'Allah. All I knew was a society where women were seen as sex objects and were treated according to the way they looked and not for who they truly were or for their intellect. 

In the Western society (most) young women are brainwashed by the media to lose their dignity and honour by acting like untamed animals around young men. Society by the help of shaitan has molded young men into human idols to be worshiped by these young women. These poor young women know nothing to do except to follow the lives of these boys and become obsessed with them. Little do these girls know that these boys they are going "ga-ga" over, do not even know their full names, their place of birth, their date of birth, their last names, or their favourite colour! Yet the girls know everything about them and would give their lives for them (audhubillah!) they are trapped in their own bubble and have these fantasy stories in their minds that one day they will get married to them and settle down and live happily ever after! Surely these girls have nothing better to do than to fill up their time with daydreaming and fantasies that would never come true. Most of the Western teens have fallen into such a trap, not just in this present day but I was exposed to it even when I was a young teen!

Alhamdulillah for Islam and how our religion teaches us to value ourselves with true modesty and obedience to our Lord. We are a protected pearls who are valued for what we are and not what we look like. Our intelligence and capabilities to contribute to society are what makes us valued and unique. We are always treated with respect by our family and friends because that is what our Lord commands from each and every one of us. We save ourselves for the special man who will come and sweep us off our feet and who will respect us, value us, and treat us like the princess/queen that we are. We do not need to run around chasing random boys who will not give us the time of day. Alhamdulillah we do not need to throw ourselves at young men who would not even help our dying aunt in the hospital or pay for our university tuition. We have men who know how to protect us from harm and who would never allow any strange men to contaminate our purity by hugging us, shaking hands with us or even talking to us! The Muslimah values the commands of Allah and she loves to do things that please her Lord. She keeps things halal and she knows her boundaries. She never transgresses her limits and she understands her value in the household and in society! Allahu Akbar! How beautiful is the Muslim woman! Allah has truly made us a creation that supersedes other women ( don't deny it, you know it's true!). 

Since I became a Muslimah, I have really realised how women are truly supposed to be treated and valued by men and society (not the Western society lol). When I was a non-Muslim, I always thought that the less dignity you had, the more you were valued. It is just the way the Western world treats women. We can not deny it no matter how much we tried. It is evident all around the billboards, television shows, even your every day flyers in the mail! Women are seen as sex objects and are expected to run around gallivanting and throwing themselves onto men or anywhere they can make money by losing their sense of dignity and with no sense of shame whatsoever! Of course not ALL Western women are like this, but it is safe to say that a good majority have fallen into this large melting pot of shamelessness. It should really make us think and reflect upon the Commands of the Almighty! How He has favored us above other creations and have not made us to act like animals on a rampage! 

My dear deen queens, I wrote this post only because I felt obligated to remind us all (me included of course) the true status of the Muslim woman. I wanted to show you all that we are chosen by Allah and to represent Islam by being modest, truthful, pure, and shy. We should never imitate anything that is not from Islam! We should never try to be someone we are not and we should always remember our worth ! Our shyness and modesty are what makes us truly beautiful! We should never throw that away for any boy or man who is not willing to approach us in the manner prescribed by Allah the Almighty! We need to have that mentality of that woman who knows her status in Islam. She is not a cheap price for ANY or EVERY man. Her royalty can not be bought or bargained for because she belongs to the man who fears Allah and has high values and expectations of his Muslim wife. Never underestimate your value o' sister in Islam! Know your worth and know who you are in the Sight of Allah ! Remember He has created us to worship Him alone! 

In such a fast paced society like today, it is hard to remember where we stand in this world. We need to remember that we were not created for this worldly life but for Jannah ! The gardens in which beneath the rivers flow and everything is perfect and easy! We should busy ourselves with knowing what Allah Loves and Hates and so we can strive for that instead of striving for what the creation loves and hates. We should never idolize any creations of Allah because that is pure shirk (audhubillah!). We should remember that we are running through this world chasing after the Hereafter and not for this temporary worldly life! May Allah grant us understanding of His deen and may He open our hearts to knowing how beautiful and blessed we are to be Muslims! Ameen !

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Assalamualaikum, please be mindful about what you are about to write. Think about it before writing and make sure it is something positive and beneficial, otherwise it will be deleted and ignored. JazakiAllah kheyr ! Sisters ONLY! xo