Sunday, August 14, 2011

On a lighter note....

Before I became Muslim, I never wanted to get married. The thought of being "tied down" as the Westerners call it these days, was something I did not want to be! Marriage in the Western world has been outlined such that you have to make sure that you date long enough to know if he or she is "the one", you have to be financially stable before you can "settle down", and you have to make sure that there is enough alcohol served at your wedding. Though there are many more that I could list, these are the top IMPORTANT factors to a Westernized marriage.

I was born and raised in Toronto, Ontario where the city has become so overpopulated by materialism, unfaithfulness in all aspects, and polytheism. It is no wonder that when it comes to marriage, it is almost close to impossible to find a mate that would be forever grateful, loyal, and devoted til "death do us part."

Now enter marriage in Islam.
Marriage in Islam described by Allah in the Qur'an as this :

"O mankind, fear your Lord, who created you from one soul and created from it its mate and dispersed from both of them many men and women. And fear Allah , through whom you ask one another, and the wombs. Indeed Allah is ever, over you, an Observer." [ An-Nisa 4:1]

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your [hearts] . . .)" [Ar-Rum 30:21]

"And whoever among you cannot [find] the means to marry free, believing women, then [he may marry] from those whom your right hands possess of believing slave girls. And Allah is most knowing about your faith. You [believers] are of one another. So marry them with the permission of their people and give them their due compensation according to what is acceptable. [They should be] chaste, neither [of] those who commit unlawful intercourse randomly nor those who take [secret] lovers. But once they are sheltered in marriage, if they should commit adultery, then for them is half the punishment for free [unmarried] women. This [allowance] is for him among you who fears sin, but to be patient is better for you. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful." [An-Nisa 4:25]

"It is He who created you from one soul and created from it its mate that he might dwell in security with her. And when he covers her, she carries a light burden and continues therein. And when it becomes heavy, they both invoke Allah , their Lord, "If You should give us a good [child], we will surely be among the grateful.""[Al-A'raf 7:189]

These beautiful verses from the Qur'an deliver the ultimate guidance on marriage.
A righteous woman is the greatest blessing that Allah The Almighty can give to a man, for with her he can find comfort and rest after the exhausting struggle of earning a living. With his wife, he can find incomparable tranquility and pleasure.

It is mentioned in a Hadith:
"A woman came to ask the Prophet (sallallahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) about some matter, and when he had dealt with it, he asked her, “Do you have a husband?” She said, “Yes.” He asked her, “How are you with him?” She said, “I never fall short in my duties, except for that which is beyond me.” He said, “Pay attention to how you treat him, for he is your Paradise and your Hell.”

The importance of this Hadith is that the way you treat your husband is extremely important. Your destiny on Judgement Day could easily be determined by how you treat your husband.
A righteous wife never falls short of :

- She is obedient to her husband and shows him respect 
- She treats his mother and family with kindness and respect 
- She endears herself to her husband and is keen to please him 
- She does not disclose his secrets 
- She stands by him and offers her advice
- She encourages her husband to spend for the sake of Allah The Almighty
- She helps him to obey Allah
- She fills his heart with joy 
- She makes herself beautiful for him  
- She is cheerful and grateful when she meets him 
- She does not look at other men 
- She does not describe other women to him 
- She tries to create an atmosphere of peace and tranquility for him 
- She is tolerant and forgiving 
- She is strong in character and wise 
- She is one of the most successful wives    

Allah our Creator who is Most Gracious, Most Merciful, Most Beneficent is The One who has chosen for you your mate. He knows who is best for you and if you dare disobey or fall short of treating your husband any less than the mentioned above, than you are indeed mistreating and disobeying Allah. 
So for our married, engaged, looking to get married Muslimahs, make sure you have these things perfected !



  1. This will only happen if he or she is a good muslim.

  2. yes, as stated in the above post, the points of what MAKES A GOOD Muslim.


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